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going out of my mind - advice wanted
We have a 3 and half yr old and a 14 week old, since i've been on maternity 4 months ago now the 3 yr old is so so naughy. we have tried everything possible i think and nothing seems to faze him. the smacking has know begun but only to adults so far.
we try and talk to him and explain things to him, he answers us and says will listen, be good etc from now but doesnt seem to know i think, because 5 mins later hes naughty again.
we spend time with him and take him out without the baby so he knows hes not left out. we explain alot to him about his baby brother and what needs doing and involve him in things. he cannot leave his baby brother alone, so we explain if he keeps upsetting and wakin the baby up we cannot spend time with you because keep making baby cry.
my husband and i always stick together on things, but totally going out of our minds now and cannot think what else to do. due to his behaviour aswel i think hes being little naughty in school (teachers have not said yet tho).
any suggestions, sorry im going on and on, but im starting to back off and the feeling isnt good and tend to get upset myself.
we try and talk to him and explain things to him, he answers us and says will listen, be good etc from now but doesnt seem to know i think, because 5 mins later hes naughty again.
we spend time with him and take him out without the baby so he knows hes not left out. we explain alot to him about his baby brother and what needs doing and involve him in things. he cannot leave his baby brother alone, so we explain if he keeps upsetting and wakin the baby up we cannot spend time with you because keep making baby cry.
my husband and i always stick together on things, but totally going out of our minds now and cannot think what else to do. due to his behaviour aswel i think hes being little naughty in school (teachers have not said yet tho).
any suggestions, sorry im going on and on, but im starting to back off and the feeling isnt good and tend to get upset myself.
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I have the same problem and nothing works for long. The most effective is to take away something he values and explain why and what specific targets need to be met before he gets it back. Sometimes we take away a toy or bedtime story depending how naughty the behaviour is.
This seems to be working for now and our 3 and a half year old is behaving well.
I am careful to always remind her that I love her but am not very happy with her for whatever and if she hits no one will want to play with her.
Good luck.
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