Think my hubby maybe cheating?
Hi Everyone,
I usually post in baby but thought here was more appropriate for this, I was having a great day until i went on to my computer history & found all sorts off stuff, this may end up being a long post so sorry in advance,
Me & Hubby will of been toghether 5years in march, he has nearly cheated (arranged to meet up with my best friend for sex but i foud out and stopped before anything happened) before so i am sensitive to it probably over sensitive, anyway it turned out that she had offered it on a plate & he didnt refuse we broke up but have got back together after time apart and decided to let it go which i have. Anyway i seem to have like a sixth sense when he's up to something i don't know where it comes from but i can tell, we've had a lot of problems recently as he has been watching lots of porn and pleasing himeslf rather than be with me (but that was another post) he has now started going out to the pub which he never does leaving me with Evie, he's very moody and expects me to do everything if i try to talk to him i'm in the wrong bla bla and i'm making things into things there not.
Well i was just messing on the computer history when i found websites saying meet up for sex in your area etc etc, and tmobile website where hes got a new phone from but i've never seen it but says he def has it on there. He has always know that i won't put up with him cheating on me and i would of though what he went through to get me back last time he would of learnt his lesson. If he has cheated on me that'll be it and he knows it, we both wanted a baby but he takes no responsibility for her. Please give me ideas i know this post is all over the place but i'm so mad i can't think clearly. xxxxxx
P.s i have no real friends to ask as they all fell out with me when i decided to take him back, i feel like such a fool now
I usually post in baby but thought here was more appropriate for this, I was having a great day until i went on to my computer history & found all sorts off stuff, this may end up being a long post so sorry in advance,
Me & Hubby will of been toghether 5years in march, he has nearly cheated (arranged to meet up with my best friend for sex but i foud out and stopped before anything happened) before so i am sensitive to it probably over sensitive, anyway it turned out that she had offered it on a plate & he didnt refuse we broke up but have got back together after time apart and decided to let it go which i have. Anyway i seem to have like a sixth sense when he's up to something i don't know where it comes from but i can tell, we've had a lot of problems recently as he has been watching lots of porn and pleasing himeslf rather than be with me (but that was another post) he has now started going out to the pub which he never does leaving me with Evie, he's very moody and expects me to do everything if i try to talk to him i'm in the wrong bla bla and i'm making things into things there not.
Well i was just messing on the computer history when i found websites saying meet up for sex in your area etc etc, and tmobile website where hes got a new phone from but i've never seen it but says he def has it on there. He has always know that i won't put up with him cheating on me and i would of though what he went through to get me back last time he would of learnt his lesson. If he has cheated on me that'll be it and he knows it, we both wanted a baby but he takes no responsibility for her. Please give me ideas i know this post is all over the place but i'm so mad i can't think clearly. xxxxxx
P.s i have no real friends to ask as they all fell out with me when i decided to take him back, i feel like such a fool now
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I think the information you have turned up is almost proof, why else would you have a 'secret' phone - he'll deny it obviously. Why else would you type in 'places to meet for sex'? Research?
I'm really sorry, and it may not be the opinion you were hoping for, but if it were me, I would be more than suspiscious. Our sixth sense is there for a reason and I think we're very rarely proved wrong.
Good luck honey, your friends should be there no matter what you choose to do, it's your life not there's and I hope you get some support.
Big hugs.xx
I got treated like shit by ex too the father of my daughter and daughter to be and when i look back i can see what a fool i've been, you will do them if you let this one ride again.
I agree i think intending on cheating is just as bad as cheating.
Leopards cant change there spots, i hope you make the right choice for you and your little girl......he doesnt deserve either of you
Sarah
39wks
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I got treated like shit by ex too the father of my daughter and daughter to be and when i look back i can see what a fool i've been, you will do the sam if you let this one ride again.
I agree i think intending on cheating is just as bad as cheating.
Leopards cant change there spots, i hope you make the right choice for you and your little girl......he doesnt deserve either of you
Sarah
39wks
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Sorry girls if it sounds a bit weird!!
Lisa xx
Sometimes its not knowing what you should do,its ACTUALLY doing it!that I think is the hardest part,and too many times we put it off or make excuses..but I agree with Lisabump,you really do have to do whats right for you,this isnt the first time you have had reason too,and if you ignore or forgive this time around,there is a good possibility he will do it again!!!!!!!
Sit him down and tell him what you found,but you know as well as we all do he will try and deney it,be strong!
I cant tell you what to do,but you and your lo deserve a man who cares and takes the time to talk any problems through with you!you dont deserve a cheat and a lier! x
I am so sorry you're going through this. Probably the last thing you need with a lo to take care of and the previous betrayal.
I feel I can relate a little. Hubby and I had a really rough time last summer. I booted him out too! However since then we have come on leaps and bounds. I believe everyone deserves a 2nd chance...
As your oh has already had that 2nd chance I would refer to Lisas message. Concentrate on YOU and what will make YOU happy.
'Relate' offer relationship councelling if this is a route you would like to take? Your GP will have plenty of information on this. It sounds to me like you both have things that need to be brought out in the open, may do the world of good.
The girls are right, they're are plenty of great men out there if you decide to go it alone, but I recommend some soul searching first. You will know in your heart if its the right time to leave him.
It is very easy for friends/family to recommend that you leave him. and I would have probably said something similar a few years ago... however life isn't black and white and if decisions were that simple we probably wouldn't need a 'support' forum.
Thinking of you xx
[Modified by: RachelandBabygirl on January 29, 2009 12:27 AM]
Best wishes xxx
To behonest the advice the other girls have given is what I would also say.
I just want to send you lot's of love and I hope tonight you get the answers.
Take care babe xxx
I hope u got some answers! Im really sorry u have to go through this. Men can be such arseholes!
Big hugs to u hun xx
I hope u got some answers! Im really sorry u have to go through this. Men can be such arseholes!
Big hugs to u hun xx
did u gat any answers for the phone?
Big hugs to u hun hope ur ok. xx xx