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oh god i feel like crying reading that and holding on to lo so tight. the poor girl, i dont really know what you could do given i couldnt even begin to know how she is feeling although i obviously have a rough idea. i think a card is a good idea, personally though i hate the 'with sympathy' ones and would go for a 'thinking of you' or 'sending you hugs' type instead. cards are nice and show you care but she will need more than that, i dont think it will be about gifts and i'd imagine at the moment she probably does want space but as has been said people grieve differently so she may want the complete opposite. i think i would probably give a phone call too, the problem is when you need people for things like this quite a lot stay away purely because they dont know what to say but all you really need to do is show youre there and bring some normality back. perhaps invite her to yours for coffee or something, id imagine her house is full of nasty reminders atm. perhaps suggest going away somwhere, offer to help if shes going to pack stuff up, dont push her and let her do things at her own pace but be there to listen, support and help make sure she can move on. oh and make sure she knows its not her fault! look after yourself and her and her oh, maybe you could take a casserole over im sure they dont feel like cooking? thoughts with them and you take care