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A day I will never forget..........
Hiya
On Tuesday 13th March I went for my first scan ( it would have been our first baby) (was very nearly 12 weeks) and I was told that there was no heart beat, so three scans later I was told that there was definately no heart beat, just a very small foetus and the pregnancy sac. I was sent away for a week and I was to go back the following Tuesday to discuss what happens next, so went away from the hospital on what should have been one of the best moments of my life but we were totally mortified.
Anyway on Friday, I started to bleed and ended up being in severe pain, the pain that I had I could not describe, it was awful and at 2am on Saturday I was admitted to hospital and ended up having my miscarriage in hospital, I passed my poor baby in a bedpan and subsequently saw it, a sight I will never forget.
That was nearly two weeks ago and I feel like I am starting to feel better although the bleeding is a constant reminder, but the only thing that I can't get over was all the pain that I went through for nothing.
chelle
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[Modified by: michelle1977 on 27 March 2007 21:31:38 ]
On Tuesday 13th March I went for my first scan ( it would have been our first baby) (was very nearly 12 weeks) and I was told that there was no heart beat, so three scans later I was told that there was definately no heart beat, just a very small foetus and the pregnancy sac. I was sent away for a week and I was to go back the following Tuesday to discuss what happens next, so went away from the hospital on what should have been one of the best moments of my life but we were totally mortified.
Anyway on Friday, I started to bleed and ended up being in severe pain, the pain that I had I could not describe, it was awful and at 2am on Saturday I was admitted to hospital and ended up having my miscarriage in hospital, I passed my poor baby in a bedpan and subsequently saw it, a sight I will never forget.
That was nearly two weeks ago and I feel like I am starting to feel better although the bleeding is a constant reminder, but the only thing that I can't get over was all the pain that I went through for nothing.
chelle
x
[Modified by: michelle1977 on 27 March 2007 21:31:38 ]
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Kerry xx
The main reason for miscarriage is that the pregnancy is unhealthy. It's hard to get over, I know, but there are reasons for everything. Time is the greatest healer.
I have gone on to have a healthy baby and now I hardly ever look back. Hope this helps at all.
Take care
Jakki xxxx
I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Your emotions will be all over the place at the moment but Hayley is right, time is a great healer. You need to take each day at a time and don't expect too much of yourself. Coming on this site has really helped me. My m/c was early at 6 weeks so nothing in comparison to your experience, but still the loss of a much wanted baby. At least you know you can concieve. I am sure that life will get more positive for you. Take care. George, x
I am so sorry for your loss. I have been through a similar experience except I ended up going for a D&C as I don't think my body had any intention of getting rid of my baby...
Take it easy and don't overdo things, friends and family may find it difficult to talk about it but there are lots of people on here who have been through similar things so come on an rant or rave if it helps. I am realising that it takes time to get over something like this. I think I tried to get up and back to normal far too soon and things have only just hit me, I also seem to be in the middle of a friends and family baby boom which hasn't helped.
I wish I could say something to make it better but think it just takes time...
Take it easy.
Lots of love and Hugs
Ali
i hope that you have lots of support from family & friends and that time is the best healer, it really is.
Again, im so sorry to hear about this it's so sad, thinking of you. let us know how things go please & take care. Sophia x
This is a very hard subject to approach & i know from experience that no matter what anyone says nothing anyone can say makes you feel better.
All i would like to say to you is we are ALL here for you, even if you just need to moan or shout at somebody.
I bled for 5 weeks when i last m/c i know how hard it is. Best of luck
Tess*
This is a very hard subject to approach & i know from experience that no matter what anyone says nothing anyone can say makes you feel better.
All i would like to say to you is we are ALL here for you, even if you just need to moan or shout at somebody.
I bled for 5 weeks when i last m/c i know how hard it is. Best of luck
Tess*
Agreed xxx
One piece of advice I was given was don't ever forget that baby or try to block it out, plant a tree or do something to remember the love that you have for him or her. Try again soon, and remember we are all thinking of you. XX
Yep i'm a new comer to this whole baby website thing. Firstly, Michelle so sorry to hear your loss. After reading your message, you encouraged me to join up and realise there's many other hopeful mothers to be out there...
It was 3rd of January this year that i went for my first scan for my first baby. As i lay there on the bed while the nurse looked for my baby on the scan, i heard these painful words: 'There is something wrong with the baby'. My baby had an increasing amount of fluid at the back of the neck which later they discovered was a 'Cystic Hygroma' (where in the meoisis division a chromosome didn't divide properly) Something i'd never even heard of before and something i even find hard to gather information on now! By my second scan the fluid was spreading in to my baby's chest. I was booked in to the Gynae Ward and gave birth to my still baby at 13 weeks. I passed the option to see my baby in whatever state it was and held a funeral on 1st February. The funeral definately helped me to gain some kind of closure on this situation. However, 2 months on and i still have wobbly days where i will cry and others where i look forward to having children someday.
I can't help feeling envious when other people are expecting or when i see other new borns. My baby was due on 17th July. Even though i'm not expecting anymore, for some reason i still count down the weeks to the delivery. It's all natural. Don't expect to recover straight away or maybe even at all. But we all have hope that we can still concieve compared to those who are told they never can. Keep trying!! I am.X
I never realised you could have a funeral for a 13week old pregnancy.
I guess you learn a new thing everyday***
Best of luck ttc*
My heart breaks for you reading your message. As you can see from all the replies m/c is sadly so common, but I know from experience that doesn't make it any easier. I also lost my first baby at 13 weeks in hospital and it was one of the most devastating experiences of my life. After the physical pain, I was left with a horrible feeling of emptiness which I guess is what you're going through.
Even now, it makes me cry to think about it, even though I now have a beautiful 11 week old son who I adore. You just have to believe that there will be a happy ending for you too and even though it's a dreadful thing to go through, it will make you a stronger, more compassionate person and when you do have a baby, as I'm sure you will, he or she will be even more wanted and loved.
All the best,
Becky xx
Wishing you luck. x
No words can describe how utterly sad it is but knowing that others have felt similar does help as you realise that you're not on your own and you do have support.
The sadness never goes away but it does get easier to deal with, i promise you.
Take care x x x x
I think that I will always be tormented by what happened and even though it has happened to lots of people, it doesn't make it any easier.
Two weeks ago I planted a lovely pink camellia in my garden as a memory, it has the brightest pink flowers.
Thank you again for your kind words
chelle
Tess***