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Feeling low
I jsut feel so low at the moment, I feel as though everything in my life finds a way to go wrong somehow, Last September my hubby had a fit and was diagnosed with a brain tumour, after a rollercoaster of a year we have had the news that it is benign and not really doing much at the moment and highly unlikely to do anything in the future so that is really good news. However as a result of his diagnosis he is unable to drive at the moment so even though I have never had any urge to learn I have had to as it is not practical to have 4 children and not be able to drive. Anyway I passed my test in February but in March had a minor prang in a car park (I forgot to put my handbrake on when I had finished reversing out of my space so I rolled into the car behind me) Anyway the driver of the other car wasnt around and i had no pen or paper in the car so hubby said well dont worry just let the insurance co know and they will sort it, which they did, I admitted liability and there was no dispute and everything was paid for. But now the police are taking me to court because I didnt report to them, to be honest I didnt know i had to but it does make sense now, anyway they are not taking that as an excuse and I have had a letter today saying that the magistrates propose to disqualify me from driving, I have to go to court next Friday. I just cant believe it, its not like I ever tried to deny it had happened or ever disputed that it wasnt my fault, we will be so stuck if I lose my licence as hubby still cant drive and the children wont be able to go to their out of school activities.
To top it all off, my youngest child who is now 16 months old still cannot stand or walk alone so the hv have referred him to a paediatrician and a physio as apparantly he is displaying some of the characteristics of muscular dystrophy ie not standing or walking independantly and when he does cruise he is on his tip toes, they have said that is a worse case scenario and it may be nothing but also said it may be some neurological disorder such as mild cerebal palsy or something else.
I just cant believe nothing ever seems to be easy for me at the moment, this time last year I had the world on a plate and everything I could have wished for, a lovely husband and a beautiful new baby to complete our family, now it seems as though my whole world is in pieces, I think I must be the sort of person who attracts bad luck. I know there are so many people out there who are so much worse off than me and I should start being positive but I just cant.
Sorry for the long post but I needed to get it off my chest. xx
To top it all off, my youngest child who is now 16 months old still cannot stand or walk alone so the hv have referred him to a paediatrician and a physio as apparantly he is displaying some of the characteristics of muscular dystrophy ie not standing or walking independantly and when he does cruise he is on his tip toes, they have said that is a worse case scenario and it may be nothing but also said it may be some neurological disorder such as mild cerebal palsy or something else.
I just cant believe nothing ever seems to be easy for me at the moment, this time last year I had the world on a plate and everything I could have wished for, a lovely husband and a beautiful new baby to complete our family, now it seems as though my whole world is in pieces, I think I must be the sort of person who attracts bad luck. I know there are so many people out there who are so much worse off than me and I should start being positive but I just cant.
Sorry for the long post but I needed to get it off my chest. xx
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It sounds like you are having a rough time and my heart goes out to you.
Try not to worry too much about the driving ban. I am sure that it wont happen, especially if you explain your circumstances. I have worked with colleagues who have managed to get out of bans due to them needing a car. I very much doubt that any judge would disqualify you as long as they are aware of your situation.
As for your 16 month old, try not to worry until you know the final diagnosis as they have only said 'worst case scenario' and it may be something you don't need to worry about just yet.
Hope you are feeling a bit better soon!
xx
We have also decided that if the hv doesnt phone us this week with an appointment for the paediatrician then I am going to the doctors and refusing to move until they do the blood test there and then, If I have to pay then I will, that will hopefully rule it out and I can stop worrying about that bit anyway.
Plenty of PMA and positive vibes for me today, may prove a different story on Friday when I'm in court tho.
First off, I'm sorry that you seem to have so much happening, and you have been having a run of bad luck.
If I were you, I would deal first of all with the issue of the court appearance on Friday.
I'm not an expert on this, but I would guess that the magistrates have a discretion to remove your licence for a period, and in making this decision they will take into account all your circumstances. The fact you are the sole driver in your household and have small children (including your 16 month old who needs ongoing medical support) is highly relevant.
If you haven't got a solicitor for your court appearance on Friday, then go to your CAB on Monday and they will help you set out your circumstances, highlighting all the relevant facts. There should be a duty solicitor available in court, and you should take the offer of representation - it's free.
I know it's a nuisance, but you need to give the magistrates all the facts otherwise they won't know the circumstances or the consequences of taking away your licence. Having a solicitor on hand to make all these points on your behalf will help.
I really hope it works out.