I really feel I just want to leave...
I am sitting here crying with my husband snoring his head off in the next room!! I am so sick of his lack of support but constantly telling me that I have a 'very supportive husband'. I have a 2 year old and a 5 and a half month old and not getting more than 2hrs sleep at a time at night so I am somewhat knackered! He doesn't get up as he 'has to go to work in the morning' and doesn't see that there is any point in 2 of us being tired. My daughter who is just over 2 is waking in the night at them moment too and it is me that is getting up to her, she then wakes the baby up and he just lays there snoring. I am so sick of it. We have been arguing most of the day as he moans that we have no money and starts being nasty saying that I live the life of luxury coz he is letting me stay at home to look after our children! Don't get me wrong, I love looking after them and I always wanted to be able to bring them up but he just gets so nasty and quite obviously resents me being at home. I am probably not making any sense but I am just so upset and ready to leave. I look after the children myself anyway, we are struggling with one wage (which he keeps telling me not many people have to do), so what would be different being on my own with them. He keeps asking me if I love him, I used to say yes for a quiet life but now I struggle to say it. I can't believe he can tell me he loves me and then is so damn nasty. I get moaned at for not putting the washing away (he did that today) and that he has supported me today as he has done that and filled the dishwasher up...coz that is obviously all i have to do in a day! I do his lunch, iron his shirts each day (which I also get moaned at for as they are not all hanging in his wardrobe for him to choose which one he wants each morning), cook his dinner for him, even clean his sh** off the bloody toilet! I AM SO ANGRY! I thought being married was a partnership but feeling like I do at the moment is not what I thought marriage was going to be like and I don't know how much I can take! Thanks for listening!!
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just saw your post and felt like i had to respond.
I understand how you feel. I'm on maternity leave while hubby goes to work and i cleaned the whole house today for him not to notice. I too feel p*d off that he just comes in from work and goes and watches tv instead of helping me with our daughter.
I do realise i am at home all day while he works but looking after the baby is work too in it's own way.
You say you are exhausted - i'm not surprised. Everything is worse when you're tired too.
Hope things get better for you....
Lou
I take it you have obviously tried talking to him about how you are feeling? looking after 2 kids is a fulltime job for you so you should get a rest too. i would definately tell him he needs to help out more as its not helping you getting upset over it like this. if he disagrees then i would have a think about if you really want to carry on in silence like this and just get on with thing for thr sake of it. you deserve better hun, you need a break too!
hope things work out
Sending you a big hug!!!!
Caz x x
[Modified by: cazzy.w on July 16, 2008 11:56 PM]
i hope things get better soon x.
Do you know anyone in your family who could help/take your children for a while so you can get things done or get some sleep??
If not tell your husband its gots to change around your house, that our not living the life of luxury and explain why and just say that your not going to take the relationship serious anymore if he doesnt help anything to get him off his backside.
take care
Hope u let us know soon dear.