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Help hubby's depression returning-wont see GP
Ive been putting this off for months but now feel at the end of my teather. my husband has become unbearable he suffered a breakdown in 2007 and after recovering and returning to work, decided to come off medication. he did it with GP advice but i think it was far too quick. hes drinking too and doesnt go a day without it. he is foul to me and calls me obsene names infront of our daughter including the F and C word its horrible and makes me feel so degraded. i have noticed his temper getting worse and this morninghe kicked the crap out of the bookcase at 7.30am cause i told him to stop telling me to Foff outside my daughters bedroom.
My daughter and i need abreak from him we never have any fun anymore, but i feel guilty about boooking something cause he works hard, but he pisses me off so much when we go anywhere he always makes a big deal out of things. where to eat etc...
He wont do anything round the house anymore and i think he actually enjoys being unkind to me, he said its not his fault im completley useless. ive tried holding this family together for 3 years i have taken on board everything bills, moving and our daughter. im exhausted i know he hates me and wont leave cause hes no where to go. im scared he will flip one day if either of us winds him up too much i know its the depression but he refuses to go back on medication and wont see doc. What on earth do i do???
My daughter and i need abreak from him we never have any fun anymore, but i feel guilty about boooking something cause he works hard, but he pisses me off so much when we go anywhere he always makes a big deal out of things. where to eat etc...
He wont do anything round the house anymore and i think he actually enjoys being unkind to me, he said its not his fault im completley useless. ive tried holding this family together for 3 years i have taken on board everything bills, moving and our daughter. im exhausted i know he hates me and wont leave cause hes no where to go. im scared he will flip one day if either of us winds him up too much i know its the depression but he refuses to go back on medication and wont see doc. What on earth do i do???
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Sorry I'm not much help. I hope i haven't offended you. Good luck xxx
I had a friend who was very depressed and they did help me to help them.
The only thing I would say is that I feel it should be him leaving the marital home, rather than you. Though not sure of the best way to make that happen. Are you able to go to the doctor to discuss it? You have to put yourself and your daughter first and until he is acting in a rational way, then it has to be safer for him to be apart from you both. I am sure either Sane or Mind will help you find a way through this.
Take care.
C.xxx
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Do your/his family know anything about what is going on? How old is your daughter?
I came from a "broken home" in that my father was an alcoholic and although I loved him dearly I remember growing up with that in the background and really it stays with you.
You sound like a very strong woman and I wish you all the best with this.
3 weeks later im a changed women i now know that i didnt deserve any of the emotional abuse i was being given.
and he really has some issues to address hes back on some new medication and is already a different man. he will be having councelling for some childhood dissues and we are seeing relate.
he will also do a mens programme to learn how to have more respect for us.
but seeing him actually enjoying our daughter for the first time in 3 years brings a tear to my eye. i hope it last!!!;\)
xxx