Did he really say that??
I am so angry and upset it is unbelievable. My husband was out last night with some friends and one of them has never been my favourite person, I've never really got on with him, but I've kind of just tollerated him for the last few years. Well last night they all came round to get hubby and he was asking how the pregnancy was going, his wife had a baby a couple of months ago so he was asking if I was taking folic acid and I said I was and he was asking if I was eating right and getting plenty of sleep and if I'd had any sickness and then started going on about what I should be doing and that I shouldn't be doing anything (I was getting a drink), so I said "thanks for your concern, but I'm not ill, I'm pregnant, it's not 1930, the advic isn't to be on complete bed rest for 9 months like it was then and I pointed out that I have been pregnant before" and he actually turned round and said to me "yeah and look at what happened then"!!!!!!! (as in my last pregnancy ended in a still birth).
At the time I was just amazed he'd said it and told hubby to get them out and the more I've thought about it the more it's annoyed me. Hubby didn't hear it and I only told him about it today and he's fuming!
Am I being unreasonable to be so annoyed?? xxxxxx
At the time I was just amazed he'd said it and told hubby to get them out and the more I've thought about it the more it's annoyed me. Hubby didn't hear it and I only told him about it today and he's fuming!
Am I being unreasonable to be so annoyed?? xxxxxx
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Does your husband seriously still want to hang around with someone that callously tactless? I hope not.
OMFG you have every right to be angry and upset - how insensitive. I'll bet his wife would have been fuming too if she'd heard.
I hate it when people think they know everything and can tell you what to do just because they've done it! Every pregnancy and body and is different and since when has complete inactivity been proven to prevent anything happening? I bet he didn't let his wife do nowt for 9 months!
I've calmed down a bit now, but I think what annoyed me is for months after losing the baby I blamed myself and tried to work out what I had done wrong and it was like he was insinuating I had done something wrong and it was my fault. xxxxxx
Just picked up my jaw from the ground!! What an I D I O T!
So sorry you have had to tolerate this silly man.
Very pleased hubby shares your thoughts on this. What an AWFUL thing to say...
Enjoy your pregnancy... and steer clear of these sorts of people. He has obv never had to cope with loss.
Rachel xx
Please don't listen to that insensitive, inconsiderate, spineless, wretch of a creature that calls himself a man (and a dad?!). xx
I really hope one day it dawns on him just how cold and ignorant his words were, I am even more sorry for any of his children. It is wonderful to hear your dh is supportive, and well if you ever run this guy over in your car, I'd alibi you . Please please do not let this snuggle down and grow in your mind. You are a wonderful mum, and are doing the best you can. You are not to blame for what happened to your precious angel, and I hope you can take some small comfort in knowing that every moment you had together, your baby knew just how much you loved them.
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hope your ok and feeling well take care love vicki x
i know it's hard but try to put that knob head and his comments out of ur mind
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