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feeling fed up
Hi ,im just feeling low at the moment as having a baby isnt how i thought it would be. She is 3 months now but doesnt sleep at all during the day and not very well at night. I just feel like i want my old life back but then i feel guilty as i know there are loads of people who would love to be in my position. I have a nice house i dont have to work, my partner is fairly supportive. I dont think its pnd. Was just wondering if anyone else felt this way as everyone i try to talk to just says things like its worth it though and much as i love her im thinking is it ? i feel awful because im supposed to be happy. Please tell me its not just me
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Don't feel guilty as long as you love and care for her is the main thing.
I found things very difficult to begin with and didn't really bond very well with my lo until about 3 months and didn't really get to the point where things clicked into place until she was 6 months.
She was also a very bad sleeper but now sleeps fairly well at night, still not great in the day but you do adapt.
Having a baby is a huge shock and no matter how much you think you are prepared you are not until they arrive, I had planned to keep lo with me whilst working from home, that was just laughable, every time i went to do something she would wake up.
All I can tell you is it has got so much better as time has gone on and even though life will never be as it used to be you discover a new life and get where no matter how tired you are you wouldn't change it - I know everyone says it but it did happen to me it just took more time and i am sure you will get there too.
Don't be afraid to ask for help, get oh to take lo for an hour and have a long soak in the bath or arrange an evening with friends, I would see your gp or hv anyway as they may be able to help.
Hope things get better soon!
xx