i feel useless......
hi guys, i just wanted to know if nebody felt the same way i do.....i feel really useless cos im stuk at home with the kids all day and not doin "real money makin work" so my hubby calls it....
i racked my brains out and studied really hard to get my degree, but then fell pregnant straight after i graduated so never got the chance to work. thot id look for work after that but then fell pregnant another two times after that so got well stuk in the house....now my older two will be in school full time after the summer hols so cudve thot abt getin a job then....but now my disabled mother in law is living with us and i cant go to work cos i have to look after her aswell now, and now im just at a real low as to y i put myself here after studying so hard....and yea maybe i cud find a job but il only be pushin myself even harder than i am now lookin after 3 kids, disabled mother in law AND the house hold chores......wat u think?
shud i just get over the fact dat my degree mite aswell b in the bucket rite now....or do u guys think wat i am doin rite now is just as worthwhile and i shud just get on with it, i mean i did put myself in this situation......
ne thots?
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If you feel as though you want to work, perhaps start part-time or even volunteering to get some experience and make it clear to your OH you'll need help. This will give you experience to look for other jobs in the future, but you may need more training. Some friends from Uni have decided that teaching fits in well with having a family so have done a 1 year PCGE to do this but it does require a lot of juggling.
I would advise that you think about what you want to do when your littlest is at school and start working towards that now. If that means a carer for your MIL for a day or two a week so be it. Otherwise you'll resent her for tying you to the home..... and a happy Mum tends to mean happy kids.
Yep there will be school holidays but you will get paid holiday too and there are always lots of good summer clubs for children over the holidays.
Good luck deciding what you want to do.
Mooomin x
i had a serious discussion with my OH who basiacly told me off for feeling incomplete becos i have so much on hands at the moment and shudnt be feeling like this bcos he doesnt think i need to work when we have the shop and with my disabilities itl be taking extra workload on that i dont need....but i didnt know if he was saying that becos he actually realy cares about me puting myself out to prove summat, or hes saying it cos him and MIl and the kids will be hard up with me not being at home as much and doing everything like some free skivvy.....