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What do I do
I'm going through a really sad time of loosing a baby And just found out my partner has been watching porn he now how self concious I am at the moment so I dont understand why he would do this to me specialy with what I'm going through ive already confronted him on how I feel and he's gone on to do it again so upsetting don't no what to do
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Oh lalalala, you poor thing! What an awful time for you.
How did your partner react to you losing the baby? I only ask because I know that people react in all sorts of different and surprising ways - maybe this is his? Not that this excuses his behaviour, of course, or the effect it's having on you.
Be kind to yourself. Don't rush into any decisions. And, if you like to chat to some lovely women who know what it's like to lose a baby, let me know and I'll point you in their direction.
Hi lalalala,
so sorry for your loss, I lost my first baby and I know how difficult it is to deal with
as for the porn... We are all different and for me isn't a problem, my partner watches it too and it's never bothed me, we've even watched it together. I'm not sure how to comfort you in that way because I see at as something men do, there highly sexed and I could never keep up to his sex drive!
Its most likley a way for him to relax and unwind, take this mind off stressful times ect
Your obviously against it and assuming it makes you uncomfortable? But he's probably been watching it since he was a teen and I doubt he will stop watching it.
i once caught my partner watching gay porn and I was mortified, but I decided if he is going to watch it then is rather he didn't do it behind my back, so I decided that ignorance is bliss.
id only be worried about it if he stopped having sex with you ( and I mean saying no and pushing you away) I'm sure he loves and adores you, but the simple fact is MEN watch PORN wheather you know about it is the difference.
dont worry about it, I say leave him to his porn and go buy some sexy undies!
maybe have a look at his history of what he watches and recreate it( a outfit for example) but obviously give yourself both time to heal from your loss.
hope I've been helpful and haven't offended in anyway, just my thought on it
good luck and sorry again for what your going through xx
He didnt seem to bothered about the loss it was like an oh well reaction and ive gone on his history once and found dathing websites and chatS and escort sites dunno if he's curious or he actually wants to use these sites either way I'm devastated there's only support that's gonna help me and that's his but he doesn't seem to care i have another hospital apointment Thursday to check my womb and ive asked my mum to come along as he's not supportive at all he's a bitt emotionless and we already have a son who he was there for every step of the way every antinatal appointment but ive had the feeling he hasn't loved me for a while or his feelings have changed now this I just don't no Wa jm supposed to do at a low point in my life now thank god for my beautiful son he's the only person keeping me going