Is my other half pulling his weight?
I feel like I could really use a second opinion, in case my expectations are unreasonable….
I have a 2 1/2 year old son, and now also an 8 week old son with my partner of 5 years. I am the stay at home mum while he works, as he is the higher wage earner. He started at a new job the day he returned back to work from his 2 wks paternity leave (bad timing, but his choice!) and it involves more stress and longer hours, plus longer commute. Thus he is out of the house from around 7.30am - 8.30pm weekdays, but is always home at the weekends.
I am therefore doing everything during the week for both boys, and all the nightime stuff as well as when he gets home he has a quick dinner and goes to bed in the spare room as he needs a full nights sleep to be able to function at work. At the weekends he needs to recharge his batteries and is exhausted after his busy week, so it's rare I get a full nights sleep or any time to myself. I'm starting to feel a bit hard done by, but maybe I'm just wallowing after a hard day. Any thoughts? I don't know if most dad's sleep in the spare room on work nights, or if this is common?
Thanks - feeling quite alone.