Partner search teenager and stares at women what do i do!
Hi , I have been with my patner 2 and a half years the first 5 months I didnt notice him looking at young girls however I did notice how much he'd stare at women very noticeably infront of me. I then noticed direspectful things such as whilst we were away we were sitting at a restraunt beach view and he did not stop staring at this young girl id say maybe 16, She then started to walk into the place and he followed. I didnt say anything for months , new relationship didnt want to look like i was watching what he does etc. (even though very noticible) . Then whithin the next few months his phone was next to me and had a instagram notification so i was like oh my partner has this didnt follow me or know etc. When i opened the notification it was a girl who looked around 14, i went onto the profile a little worried and there he was with a random name just following 20 girls who were al under 18. I mentioned it to him straight away it scared me , he stated that he did that because he was depressed and all the girls remind him of me? ... so i tried to brake up with him over this but he begged an promised he wouldnt do it again so we tried. Months down the line I got pregnant now have a 8 month old son. Whilst I was pregnant he would walk out of a shop that i was in with in and watch a girl walk past in tight trousers and actually have to go out and follow her, when i went out and saw him I asked him what do you think you are boring his reponse was ;I was bored: ... ok Then whilst his phone is next to me again bing a notification of a super young girl on facebook, now no exaggretaion but from A to Z on his facebook search were all young females. any letter you search there would be a list of girls, no mutal friend nothing. They look all around between the ages of 13/17 . Now he tells me he doesnt do this anymore, however its not transferred onto the street he stares at every single womens ass and tells me its an obsession that hes trying to get over. Now im continuously anxious , worried and super insecure. Just to say we do have a 12 year age difference, I am now 19 and he is 32. He also went on a dating site when i was pregnant and just looked thorugh pictures, he also went through loadsz of pages to try and find out how much this porn star he likes is to book, he also looks at websites in which are of just women which large bums walking...
Is he a weirdo ? I am inlove with him but im told to leave? Is he a peodophile? Or am i over insecure and he shoud be able to look and search where he wants cause its human nature? I just need advice from people whom have no attachmemts to me.
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He's definitely a weirdo. Normal men are not like that. I can't believe you've stayed so long. dont listen to his excuses just leave your worth far more.
I honestly don't think this is normal. I thought before you mentioned your age that he was maybe a little bit of a weirdo, but since you mentioned your age it clarifies how much he actually likes younger girls. I don't think it's right and you do have your son to think about.
I've said what I've said not because of the age difference, I was with a man much older than my self and my friend currently is. I'm saying he's weird and there is something wrong because of the way he is behaving, it is not normal at all, it's bordering on criminal. You know it yourself without us telling you.
hi leahhannon yeah i agree with connie101 this is not normal if hes 32 and looking at younger girls then thats not right he obvs aint interested in you anny more
if hes doing that my ex texted other girls i dumped him and he begged for me back i know its hard i was so confused and pissed off i just walked away with a brave face then i met someone new and hes perfect and now were having a family together i never thought i would find someone and i did you can do so much better trused me if you stary with him and hes looking at younger girls hes in alot of trouble no just by you but by the law and if you dont leave him you dont want to get dragged down with him or get involved your so much more better the how hes treating you he dont care thats how it looks but its up to you hunny i hope you do the right thing. xxx
you could have a better future with someone else who treats you well and always want to be around you and concentrate on you and not other girls right in front of you, you no thats awful if you done that to him how do u think he would felel he probley wouldnt care as if you do it he knowes he can get away with it. xx
GOOD LUCK XX
I agree, this is not normal behaviour and tbh is bordering on paedophilia. He is showing an unnatural and seemingly obsessive interest in young girls.
He is hiding it and denying it also he seems arrogant to the fact it upsets you ( you can do sooo much better !!)
My advice would be to make him seek professional help soon before he feels he has to take the next step with one of these underage girls - as if I found he was interacting with one of my daughters while she was under 18 he would be emasculated and fed to the pigs.
I don't envy you the future if you can't make him see what he is doing is wrong, I think you already know what everyone here is saying and are just looking for the shove you need to do what's right for you and your baby.
Maybe the age gap you have should be an indication that he liked young girls to begin with and now you are ' grown up' with a child his eyes are wondering again.
Apologies for being harsh but I think tip toeing has got you nowhere.
Best wishes x
Oh and just to clarify, it is not human nature for a grown man of 32 years old to be showing obsessive and sexual tendencies toward young girls. This is called paedophilia..... If it was just the porn or big bums then maybe he is just a weirdo but the young girl thing IS criminal.