Him or me?
So I’m currently 7+6 weeks pregnant, for the past week or so I’ve started to feel really sick also I am absolutely shattered! I’m having to nap in the day to keep me some what awake. I have 2 children already 4&2 so things at home are hectic, I also run my own cupcake business from home so things are pretty crazy atm.
I’ve just had a huge argument with my partner because of the ‘lack’ of sex we’re having yet we had sex about 2 days ago then again last night. But last night I wasn’t up for it at all but I tried it make abit of an effort for him I think he could tell I wasn’t into it much.
Anyway this morning the kids had woken up early & were pretty much trying to kill each other so he jumped out of bed stomping about but he sorted them out. He didn’t speak to me much when he got up just kept huffin & puffin then when I spoke to him he just came back at me with really short snappy answer or him being sarcastic.
Then I asked what’s up with him which I regret now because he starts rambling about his back hurts, his head hurts then the fact I didn’t want to have sex with him last night. I said I did that for you I tried to make an effort then he said well if you didn’t wanna have sex with me then don’t but when I say I don’t feel well or I’m just tired he huffs & I know he’s in a mood.
I said I just feel really sick atm & sex is the last thing on my mind right now then he makes comments all day about how he isn’t getting any or he’s all over me hinting! By the time bedtime comes around I can just about keep my eyes open.
So I just snapped at him, I said I’m sick of him commenting on it, when we have sex often yes, maybe not as much as he’d like (probs 5 times a day or something lol) but he goes on like we haven’t had sex in like 3 years! He doesn’t leave me alone, always pesting me! I told him he makes me feel like a piece of meat when he acts like that, I’ve told him before to stop then he just says I won’t do anything anymore I’ll stop! So he’s now he’s feeling sorry for himself & we haven’t spoke!
Aibu to have snapped at him? He just doesn’t get it, my sex drive isn’t as high as his which I can’t help. I can’t just turn on a button it’s really starting to bug me, apart from this things have been great!
It’s like there’s always bloody something!
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In my opinion he is really out of order, not only would I have snapped at him but I'd prob have kicked him out (my pregnancy hormones are in full swing 😂).
Sex has been the last thing on my mind for the last 30 weeks, for starters due to a low lying placenta I medically couldn't for over 10 weeks, so then what would he do?
I suggest once the kids are in bed you try and talk about it properly, there are other ways to show affection and that you love each other 😊. Good luck!