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No one to talk to. Need to leave my partner

Iv been with my partner for a year and a half. We are engaged and I have a 2 year old Daughter from a previous relationship that I left when she was 2 weeks old, due to him being a cheat and mentally abusive. Iv made some bad choices with men clearly! 

Anyway. I can’t say this I’s sonething thats come out of the blue because it isn’t.. Iv seen red flags for a while. He drinks a few times a week, and drink completely changes him. He’s nasty and cruel to me. He’s even pushed me around a bit, and Iv let it go. Recently Iv started trying to loose a few pounds to get my confidence up a little bit. Joined a boot camp and eating healthy. he can’t even stand that. He goes mad if I wear makeup to go, or tight clothes that show off my bum! 

He he calls me awful names and names me feel worthless. 

The problem is that the rest of the time he’s perfect. But i know that’s not enough. 

Iv no where to go and no money. I feel like I’m completely letting my little girl down who is my everything and what I live fot. I feel if I didnt have her I wouldn’t be here. 

Im lost and confused I’m so scared how im going to provide for my child and look after her. Im a hairdresser and don’t earn a lot. 

  Is there such thing as a place where I can go where other mums and children are that can help me? I’m absolutely desperate 

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  • Hi Suzi88

    You can speak with your local council about what is happening but there are some very useful resources too:

    Refuge: have a look on their website for your local team, they can give you support

    Women's Trust: http://www.womanstrust.org.uk/

    Women's Aid: https://www.womensaid.org.uk/

    Shelter: they can give you advice on your options https://england.shelter.org.uk/

    Turn2Us: they are a web based company that allows you to search for grants or benefits to support you to move on (if that is what you want to do)  https://www.turn2us.org.uk/

    I don't want to tell you what you already know but it is not ok for you to be treated this way. You can send me a direct message if you feel that is easier. I have had a similar experience.

    Hope this helps

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