My husband left me.....Dealing with a breakup and newborn
Long post alert. But help needed......
Me and my husband had been together 12 years and only married last year. We'd always had a happy relationship with no major ups or downs but I've always felt a small percent of insercurity in the relationship until he'd asked me to have a family and seal the deal with the wedding last year. He'd been the perfect man, always saying the right things and acting the right way. After the wedding we started trying for a baby.
We had a pregnancy scare in January and soon after that he'd started acting odd. When questioned he'd said he wanted to slow things down (now I know that meant seperate completely!) but as luck would have it, we fell pregnant soon after (without even really trying). It was a tough beginning for me emotionally with the pregnancy as I knew he was off with everything but as it went on he seemed ok but then 6 months in, he left me 😔 He said he didn't love me anymore, after seemingly loving me so much only last year! He now says he may never of really loved me completely yet he'd always told me how much i meant to him and that he did love me! I've questioned whether it's another women and he explicitly says it's not. It's apparently not a mid crisis either.
the birth was a traumatic emergency c-section which didn't help with my emotions and now I feel like I'm spinning out of control and can't see the light. I should be so happy but I just can't understand how someone could be "so in love", ask you to have a baby and start a family, marry you and then leave you 6 months pregnant and then say that they may never of loved you and that my whole relationship may have just been a lie now. When I've said that though his response is how could I have faked my feelings for 12 years, of course I loved you....
none of this makes sense to me!
He wants to be there for the baby still but I am completely broken by what's happened and don't know how to move on or find closure and happiness and cope with becomming a first time mum and single mother too!
im really struggling, please help 😔