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Late babies/just 1 more
This is a question for those of you with larger age gaps. I am 25 (although dh is 35) and have 3 kids and 2 step kids. I kind of feel that I have enough for now but deep down would love just one more.
1. Would you reccommend a big age gap LIKE 5-10 YEARS
2. Does that feeling of just one more ever go away.
1. Would you reccommend a big age gap LIKE 5-10 YEARS
2. Does that feeling of just one more ever go away.
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I dont think that feeling of just one more ever goes away because although practically I know I dont really want any more children, we have no roon in the house of car for them, I often think that just one more would be nice! Am i mad??
I have 4, 2 girls and 2 boys (can't presonally help with the age gap thing as biggest age gap is about 3 yrs!! lol) and another on the way. Thinking practically thou, I wud say this will be it otherwise I'll need a coach to get my family anywhere!!!!!
With regard to the bigger age gaps, I do know my friend found it a blessing as her oldest was 10 yrs older than the youngest and accepted baby with no hassles and loved helping out etc. Personally, I'm plz'd mine are all close and can not imagine doing it all again 5 or 6 yrs down the line once I've have stopped now. However, unless I have permanent type of contraception after no5 I guess it's a case of 'never say never'!!!
I too think I am just a 'broody type' too - I just love that 'baby' feeling hehehehehe
as for the feeling of one more - will it ever go away. with me it has curbed abit since having no 5. i always wanted a big family. but i still get days where i could easily have another one. i have 3 boys , a girl then another boy. 8,7,4,2 and 10 months. i love being a mum, it's the best job in the world!!!! definaltly what i was made for. xx
Her attitude is that she had 5 kids and she felt tied down for years (she had her first at 18 and her last at 30.)
Maybe I am being a bit selfish
i feel very lucky that i have had my 5 children. you go for it. and follow your heart. take care.xxxx
[Modified by: hayley l on April 05, 2008 06:59 PM]
The age gap is another thing my mum bangs on about my hubby and I have been together 6 years and are solid. She keeps saying that I may not notice the difference but I will when I'm in my 40's and oh is in his 50's- personally I think shes tslking crap and trying to pick faults.
Mothers- can't live with them but wouldn't be without them.
I think mum's tend to just worry and want the best for their kids - as hard as it is, I do try to imagine me in the same situation with my 2 girls and although I think to myself 'I'll be understanding etc, etc', I am sure there will be a time when I'll suddenly realise what my mum went thru!!
We have gotten the odd few starers here too thou, as it's not the norm in Holland for large families (don't know why) so when we go out as a family, we do attract a few looks - can't imagine what they'll think when bump starts showing hehehehe but to be honest, it's got nowt to do with them!!! My family is a happy one, the kids are well fed, well clothed, clean and on the whole polite too - what more can I ask!!!
I would like to have another but husband has turned round and said no way as he wants his own life back once they grow up. That up set me as i see them as my life and not that i am lossing out.