18 weeks and have just left cheating husband
Hi hun, i can relate in some ways but not in others... I too became a single parent very early on in my pregnancy. The pregnancy wasnt planned and my bf became very aggressive and nasty towards me. I must say sometimes it can be hard being a single parent but also very rewarding at the same time. If you close to your parents they are the BEST things you could ever have once you have a baby. Mine were my rock and I couldnt do it without them. Once you move back to your home town i think youll be alot happier and its a fresh start! Good luck! x
Thank you for your positive message. It's reassuring to hear from a single Mum who has been through the mill too! My Mum and Dad are lovely. I am taking out a lot of my stresses on Mum, snapping at her and just being mean. Then feeling very guilty, which is an extra stress I really dont need. I feel like I am always apologising. But I love her to pieces and she to is my rock. I desperately want to be a great Mum and know I must stay strong. I just wish I was in my new home now. Does your ex see the baby? xx xx Sending best wishes to you and your babs
It was hard both before i had my son and then after,i hated being totally alone,as this is how you naturally feel,i just wanted the family i had dreamed of,but soon came to terms with things the way they were..i agree with Sammy,it is easier spiltting before baby is born,gives you the time to come to terms with everything,and you arent suddenly on your own!!
I dont regret anything now,im so happy with my little man,i can only imagine how much harder it would of been if we had tried to stay together...
My sons dad sees him once a week at his parents house,me and him have no contact,i havent spoken or seen him since my son was 2mths old,hes 13mths now!!!Has my ex isnt working i get no payments from him and this helps sum him up in my eyes and makes me heave a big sigh of relief im no longer with him!lol
Things will be hard at first,and its great you have your parents,my mum has been excellent,watches my son whilst i go out to work,nights out ect....couldnt do it without her,she was even at the birth!!but like me and lots of others out there you will cope and come to think that things are probably better the way they now are!
Someone who disrespected you the way your ex did is best out of your life,you will move on in time and meet someone who deserves you and your baby(as i now have!!)
I can also relate about snapping at your mum,when i was pregnant i was a nightmare to her,but luckily she understood and didnt take it to heart,just like your mum will!its only understandable that you feel like you do,and we always take it out on those closest to us!
Take care,all the best,things will work out for you.....never seems it at the time but it always does!x
Yes, I am a christian and was also brought up in church. My faith makes me a stronger person.
However, sadly I haven't been too strong on this occasion. After things calmed down my husband and I patched things up... to cut a long story short time wasn't on our side and he has been deployed (he is in the military).
I was sorry to hear the horror you have been through and can only imagine the hurt you have felt. My husband was married previously and he admitted to have cheated on her (never with me though, I met him months after they seperated), therefore maybe I should have known better. I just always thought he adored me. There were no warning signs. Sounds to me like your ex is rushing into things with this other women, and sadly 9/10 this ends in heartbreak!
Being a single Mum never worries me. I am confident of my ability - having worked with children, studied childcare and having so desperately longed for a child. However being without him scares me. A failed marriage...
As he is away, I've had time to reflect and slowly the heartache is going and I am starting to remember all the special reasons why I married him in the first place. When you have decided there is only one man for you, for the rest of your life... it's strange when that falls to pieces... completely out of your control. I have bad days, when I seriously worry about life when he returns. All I have ever wanted is a special, wonderful family.
Only time will tell what will happen. Maybe we can be strong and get through this? Maybe he'll let me down again? But I now feel prepared for the worse. Which I never was before.
I hope you find love again soon