9 month old won’t sleep
First time posting so, sorry it is so long but myself and my husband have reached the point where we need some advice.
My 9 month old has never been a great sleeper but we had gotten to the point where he would have 2 feeds (breast) at roughly the same time each night and would settle back down. Although it wasn’t ideal (obviously id prefer a full night sleep) it was managable.
Most recently, my son will go down to sleep as usual but around the time of the first feed he will wake, feed, settle as usual but then will cry every time I leave the room. he will fall asleep if myself or my husband stand by the cot but cry the moment we step away.
I am aware of separation anxiety and I imagine that is what is going on here but what I need help with is what to do next?
As mentioned, he is not a good sleeper... We have a bedtime routine. We have tried every suggested “good sleep habit” going. We have tried a gradual retreat and we have even tried co-sleeping (My son thinks it’s play time and proceeds to crawl up and down the bed or whacks us in the face. If we try to cuddle him he screams like we are torturing him). Nothing seems to work.
We are currently sat letting him cry (it’s been 5 minutes) in the desperate hope that he will just fall asleep so we can all get some rest. I don’t want to use “cry it out“ methods but I’m totally at a loss and absolutely shattered. does anyone have any advice?
Thank you I’m advance,