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my 18month old wont sleep alone
He's really clingy especially to his dad. sometimes he screams and cries when we leave the room, he follows us everywhere and has ended up sleeping in our bed. sometimes i have to go sleep in the spare bed cos i'm 7 motnhs pregnant and there s no room.
His bed is all ready looking nice n cosy but he just wont go. his dad is not patient enough to go take him to bed. and our son definatly wont let me take him. even if hes fallen asleep downstairs his dad just puts him in our bed cos he'll wake up and cry knowing hes not in our bed. pleaseeeee help please
His bed is all ready looking nice n cosy but he just wont go. his dad is not patient enough to go take him to bed. and our son definatly wont let me take him. even if hes fallen asleep downstairs his dad just puts him in our bed cos he'll wake up and cry knowing hes not in our bed. pleaseeeee help please
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you lo knows if he kicks off he'll get his own way and get into your bed! My little boy is 18months too and everynight we put him down at 7 - 7.30pm and he always has a screaming match when we first leave the room but within 10minutes he's stopped and fast asleep.
Have you always had sleeping problems? or is this more recent? My lo didn't sleep through till 9months and he only went through because we had 3 nights of controlled crying.
Its not cruel to let lo cry, as long as he's safe (I presume you've taken him out of cot already as you said bed). let him have a scream for 5 minutes then go back in, lights low, and settle him back down, but not too much eye contact and no talking, then walk away again, then try and leave him a bit longer. I bet if you persevere with this for a few days you'll crack it.
You also said he follows you everywhere, so try it during day too, walk out of room, hide round corner for a few minutes and let him get used to his own company for a few minutes.
I hope this helps, and let me know how you got on xx
we are trying something new this weekend. Recently I've been letting her play in her room so she's familiar with it so that if she does wake up in the middle of the night she won't be frightened. We' ve put a gate up outside her door and we are going to take the sides down on her cot and make it into a bed. Our thinking is that she is used to a bed so hopefully might take it to it better than a cot, plus whenever she's touched the sides before its woke her up. Other than this I am at a loss as to what else to do.
Good luck to us both xxxx