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Sleepin through the night
Hi, my little boy is 19 months old and still doesn't sleep through the night. Just wonderin if anyone elses LOs about his age r the same? I no it is my fault cos i did hold him ALOT when he was a baby and as I was livin with my dad at the time didnt have housework to do so my time was spent entirely with him so I didnt really get into a routine at bedtime. He goes to bed about 7 every night and this is fine but I have to be in with him until hes asleep otherwise he screams! He cries so much and gets himself so worked up that he cant sleep so i do take the easy option. I have tried leavin him and keep checkin on him but I cant stand seein him get himself so worked up so i always give in. Once he is asleep hes fine for a few hours then he wakes up. He dont have milk durin the night but just wants me. If i get to him as soon as he wakes up I can usually give him his dummy and he'll go back to sleep but most of the time I have to stay with him until hes aslepp again or I end up puttin him in my bed cos im so tired. I no this is all my doin and do try every now and again but just really hate seein him so upset. Has any1 got any other ideas i could try? xx
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so your not on your own love.i would like some ideas too xx
Its not fair to blame yourself either cause we all have bad habits for our kids and God knows you will do just about anything to get a good nights sleep but you really need to just put him to bed and walk out and close the door. He will soon learn to go to sleep himself and so if he wakes during the night he will know to go back to sleep by himself.
Sorry to sound so harsh but i know from experiance cause my wee woman didnt sleep through till 9 months and it was my hubby who broke her habit when i was on night duty so i have to hand it to him, it really does work. x
My LO is 18 months and I had him in his 7pm bedtime routine from 10 weeks....except the last few weeks he has decided to cry at bedtime and would only let me comfort him and not my hubby. He is getting to heavy to rock, so I had to sit with him until he went to sleep...unfortumentely after just 2 nights he got used to that, so I had to let him cry. The first time I did this, I shut the door saying that it was his bedtime, then when he hadn't stopped after 5 mins, I picked him up, gave him a kiss and said it was time for him to lie down and go to sleep and that Mummy was going to bed too. After a couple of times he got the message and eventually fell asleep. This happened for four nights and fingers crossed, he now just rolls over when we put him in his cot and goes to sleep on his own just like he used to!!
I have read some research that around this age they can suddenly experience seperation anxierty, so I guess this is what my LO was feeling.
Good luck, u will make it in the end x
Like Emma, I had Joshua in a routine by 9 weeks. We'd put him to bed at 7pm he'd sleep till 10pm we'd wake him up for a feed and then he'd sleep through till 7am. BUT it wasnt easy and took a lot of perserverance! By 5 months he was sleeping right through without any feeds. However, he has occasionally woken up mainly if he's ill, but recently he's woken up once or twice and we have had to bring him into bed with us which isnt comfortable for me or oh! Luckily he seems fine now but I think it is a bit of seperation anxiety.
Im afraid I think being cruel to be kind has to be the way forward...mummy and daddy need their sleep! Good luck lovely xxx
we have tried the supernanny one where you just pick them up and put them in bed, but that did not work aswell.
so tonight im going to try and put her in her bed then sit on the floor until she goes to sleep, then do it again the next night but move closer to the door, then hopfully i will be able to go out of the room one night with her still awake and not scream.
hope everyone manages to get there lo's to sleep.
becki.xx
I have also posted on here for a simular thing. Look at it for some advice 'Advice needed please' by PumpkinPatch.
I have tried the CC thing for over a week now and every time I do it makes the whole situation worse and my lo ends up hurting herself. And it makes me feel so guilty. I do think that it works for some and not others.
Well done for getting something sorted, I hopes it works out for you.
Kerry, Freya and Pink Bump
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I have also posted on here for a simular thing. Look at it for some advice 'Advice needed please' by PumpkinPatch.
I have tried the CC thing for over a week now and every time I do it makes the whole situation worse and my lo ends up hurting herself. And it makes me feel so guilty. I do think that it works for some and not others.
Well done for getting something sorted, I hopes it works out for you.
Kerry, Freya and Pink Bump
X X X