Accept that you're going to have days where you don't want to get dressed and leave the house and embrace them! I put so much pressure on myself to meet up with people when my son was born and to me that meant I had to do my hair/make up to show that I was coping when in reality all I wanted to do was stay in my pyjamas and snuggle with my new baby.
There is no right or wrong way..only whats best for you/child/family ....but a routine is best for everyone so try to get one established as soon as you can
Don't think that everyone but you can cope, if you need help ask for it and if its offered take up the offer even if its for a few hours sleep, a long soak in the bath, or to do some housework.
Don't panic. All the baby needs is milk, a cot and a few clothes. We got caught up in buying lots of stuff we never used, and lots of clothes that never got worn as baby stayed in babygrows and vests most of the time.
Don't feel like you have to listen to anyone's advice. At the end of the day it's your journey & the first few weeks are all about survival. So however you get through it is absolutely fine!
Be kind to yourself! Don't worry about housework and how tidy your house is, don't compare your post baby body to Instagram filtered-within-an-inch-of-their-lives supermums, don't worry about your child's milestones and comparing them to supermums offspring at baby club, and take advice with a pinch of salt while accepting any offer of help you get. Relax, enjoy, and most of all, smile!
Only raise your voice when its something serious. I ran a very peaceful playgroup for 5 yrs. but the children knew it was serious if I raised my voice - ie fire escape training. I only failed once when I said "Get into Pairs" to leave the building - Simon burst into tears and said "I hate Pears Miss - I only like Apples"
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