Make time for yourself You can adapt to anything and deal with all that is needed if you come back to the situation afresh. Don't try to do absolutely everything yourself and accept kind offers of help. Make lists to be organised. Try to think ahead and plan some treats for yourself. Be kind to yourself
Mother really does know best - you're with the little'un 24/7 so you know when something is wrong or right - don't be fobbed off by others who supposedly know better.
There are too many opinions about whats right or wrong in parenting which can be quite confusing. Follow your instincts and make decisions based on what you are comfortable with.
Try to get a good sleep routine when you get into the swing of things little ones work well with routine and good sleep is good for all the family and makes you all able to handle the tough days a little better
Try to relax ! We were given maternal instincts and they will certainly kick in, nature is a wonderful thing, I would advise setting some boundaries with visitors, although you want the family to meet baby, often it is overwhelming, you are well within your rights to ask people to hold off for a bit after the inital meeting, and the type of visitors you really want will pick the hoover up while they are visiting, certainly dont be tidying up every day after people coming round, keep the house peaceful and stay in your baby bubble as long as possible........... low stress, sleep when baby sleeps, pre cook homemade healthy dinners and freeze for ease, enjoy this wonderful time......
don’t neglect yourself, take a little time out everyday for a bit of self-care or just a peaceful silence! don’t ignore the baby blues either, it can very quickly become overwhelming.. talk to somebody early on!
Popcorn is prepared in the same pot, in the same heat, in the same oil and yet, the kernels do NOT pop at the same time. - Don't compare your child to other children. Their turn to POP is coming.
Even though it is hard, try and gradually establish some routines for your baby and your housework. It will take time but will pay off in the end with peace and reassurance for baby and a sense of calm and order for you. My second tip is to remember that both you and your partner/husband will be stressed and tired. Give consideration, respect, and really listen to their point of view about things.
I must say, please if you don’t feel great and your feeling down and if it’s continuous tell your health visitor or/and doctor. PND is more common than you think and if you feel like you may have it then don’t suffer in silence, you are not alone.
Try to take care of yourself, your health is priority. Eat , drink and get as much help as you can with jobs around the home.
always try to be positive because even if we think we arent good enough etc we all parent different and as long as our children are happy, healthy and loved they really dont ask for much more
Don’t feel like a failure if you need help. Your whole life has turned upside down in the most amazing and daunting way possible. Accept help, let you dad vacuum the stairs, let your sister cook your dinner, let your husband keep ontop of the ironing for you. Having a newborn is hard going, all you need to do is keep them happy, everything and everyone else can wait. Take in those newborn snuggles
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PND is more common than you think and if you feel like you may have it then don’t suffer in silence, you are not alone.