Struggling - advice pls
Ok, I don't know where to start really. I'm feeling quite down. Since my little girl started pre-school a few months ago I've been so worried. They're quite concerned about her anxiety levels - which we are fully aware of. She's nervous of mixing with the children and is happy ish with one or two but mainly looks for adult support as clings to one or two of the ladies. Nervous of loud noises or anything which makes her jump, strange things like people blowing their noses and zips!! Think she also has a touch of selective mutism. At home she is a happy (sometimes fiery and strong willed!) little girl, who talks lots and has great vocab.
she occasionally decides not to talk when left with grandparents bit is talkative at other times, particularly when I am there.
anyway, they are offering SEN support and suggested chat with gp who has referred her to someone - not heard who yet. The SEN lady has observed her once and will again early next year. She is making progress and has gone from hating pre-school to really wanting to go and not crying when I leave. Also overcome public toilet fear and goes there now.
obv worried, particularly as she starts school next sept.
i I find it hard to make mummy friends and feel quite tired and shy at mo. Feel like they don't want to chat with me apart from one mum. I unfortunately have reliable info on her and need to avoid her if poss. I know that sounds so awful but I dont want to get involved with her for a good reason and she won't leave me alone! Wants my daughter and hers to buddy up and mentioned poss play date! I don't know how to handle situation. I am not a rude person as like to get along with people - but I have kind of been a little cool with her and she won't get the hint! I can't avoid her as always bump into her. What on earth do u do?
At groups in the past, i've always felt as though I stand out a mile as I have the v V clingy one who is hard work! i feel no one really wants to know me. I'm so worn out and down at the mo :-(