Broken mummy in need of desperate help!!!!
Hello there, for the past week my 2 1/2 year old son has suddenly started going berserk at bedtime followed by waking in the early hours and not settling until he's in with us or we are at the side of him while he falls asleep!
I have no idea where this has come from as he has been going to bed and self settling himself for well over 18 months and he has been in his own bed since earlier this year, the transition from cot to bed was great but all of a sudden he simply won't settle by himself and we don't know what to do!!!!
Ive read every piece of advice on this website and from various other sources, we tried controlled crying when he was a baby which worked within 3 nights however the difference now is that he gets out of bed and stands screaming/crying at his gate....... it doesn't matter how many times you go back up and put him back in bed, he just gets back up and will only get in bed and go back to sleep if one of us is sat at the side of him!!!!
Do I just leave him to cry? I'm so tired I could cry, we are all exhausted and it's causing massive arguments between me and hubby because he hates him crying and keeps going into him whereas I'm determined to get him to self settle again but for the past 2 nights he's cried/screamed for near on 3 hours before we gave in (in the early hours when he's woke screaming)
My hubbys argument is that he won't fall asleep if he's stood at his gate but my argument is that we are perpetuating the crying by repeatedly going up and putting him back in bed and that this is achieving nothing! For me he can cry until he falls asleep on the floor next to his gate if it means he's fallen asleep by himself!!!!
or do we try gradually retreating from the room???? Please help anyone! im at my wits end and this is horrible, im terrified that all our hard work previously has been undone in the space of a week and that we won't get him back to falling asleep by himself!!!!
Please someone point me in the right direction, should I leave him to cry it out???? Arrggghhhh!!!!!