potty training question
evie is now28months, and i'd really thought she'd be easy to potty train... turns out she's not.
ive tried once for 3days intensively but we made no progress, she can do poo's no problems but with wee's i dont think we've gotten to the potty once.
if ever i ask her just to sit on the potty, to watch tv or read a book she refuses point blank, its like she's afraid of it. and she also strains each time she sits there as if to push out a poo. i've tried explaining gently that wee'd are different and she doesnt need to strain. im wondering if it's hurt her tummy?
the other day she was at her little friends house who is 4month younger and is getting on great with training. whilst i wasnt there evie copied emily and did a wee. we gave her loads of praise and asked if she'd like to try again at home.
she does at first get excited about wearing big girl knickers but then when the potty comes out i can almost see fear on her face. ive tried to take the pressure away saying that she doesnt have to do anything on it and just to have a little try but she gets upset and asks for her nappy.
Now, she's such a bright little girl, i think she's *thinking* about it too much and worrying herself. i have a feeling once she's done a few wee's on there that there will be no stopping her and she'll be dry soon after. i just don't know how to stop her being frightened.
i would ideally like her to be dry by august when baby no2 comes. i feel hugely under pressure as well as keep getting it from friends and family that "oh such n such was trained by 18months" which i know shouldnt matter, but i just feel evie's getting a little old for nappies. am i wrong?
i've never portrayed to evie that we're in a hurry. ive tried to be really relaxed. anu suggestins anybody as to how we can take the first steps? xx
ive tried once for 3days intensively but we made no progress, she can do poo's no problems but with wee's i dont think we've gotten to the potty once.
if ever i ask her just to sit on the potty, to watch tv or read a book she refuses point blank, its like she's afraid of it. and she also strains each time she sits there as if to push out a poo. i've tried explaining gently that wee'd are different and she doesnt need to strain. im wondering if it's hurt her tummy?
the other day she was at her little friends house who is 4month younger and is getting on great with training. whilst i wasnt there evie copied emily and did a wee. we gave her loads of praise and asked if she'd like to try again at home.
she does at first get excited about wearing big girl knickers but then when the potty comes out i can almost see fear on her face. ive tried to take the pressure away saying that she doesnt have to do anything on it and just to have a little try but she gets upset and asks for her nappy.
Now, she's such a bright little girl, i think she's *thinking* about it too much and worrying herself. i have a feeling once she's done a few wee's on there that there will be no stopping her and she'll be dry soon after. i just don't know how to stop her being frightened.
i would ideally like her to be dry by august when baby no2 comes. i feel hugely under pressure as well as keep getting it from friends and family that "oh such n such was trained by 18months" which i know shouldnt matter, but i just feel evie's getting a little old for nappies. am i wrong?
i've never portrayed to evie that we're in a hurry. ive tried to be really relaxed. anu suggestins anybody as to how we can take the first steps? xx
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I was actually surprised when Charlotte had her 2 yr check. My hv said best time to potty train is actually 3 and half when they should have full control of functions and can recognise when they need to go etc. She said it's simply down to society and nurseries/playgroups wanting them toilet trained early (say 2 and half) that is making parents potty train too early in her eyes.
I can understand you want it sorted before lo no2 arrives. Before my mmc in Jan, I was due this July and I was getting worried about potty training before baby arrived.
She actually told my hubby that we'd failed Shea by not having him potty trained yet and he's just 2 1/2!!!!
and i'm working f/t too!! The cheek of her!!! so seeing your comment on the hv has made me feel a bit better
i've learnt with Shea not to push things too hard as it puts him off, so I leave the potty accessilbe and he often asks to go on and i've decided he'll do it when he's ready
If you think that she has become afraid of the potty then maybe try leaving it completely for a month or so and then starting again perhaps trying a seat for the toilet instead of the potty.
dont worry about her being too old for nappies she will do it when she feels comfortable with it, if she is scared then leave it for a while or it might do more harm than good.
Freya would not go near the potty, if i tried to get her to sit on it she would go mad, until one day about 7 weeks ago now she wanted her nappy off so i tought ok but didnt expect any thing and she went and sat on the potty and did a wee!! i couldnt belive it and she hasnt worn a nappy in the day since! she has now not worn a nappy at night for more than 2 weeks either.
Potty training shouldnt be hard, if they are ready then they will more or less train them selves. Also being ready isnt about your child being bright or advanced its just about when they are happy and feel confident enough to do it.
so dont stress, she will do it in her own time. xxxx
I found the process much easier than I was expecting but I think it's because I waited until she was ready and was actually asking to be taken for a wee.
Would she prefer the toilet do you think? I let Poppy pick a special seat for on the toilet and then she was interested in it more.
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Dont stress yourself and I agree to take some time away and maybe try again in about 2 weeks and see how you go.
Good luck.
i'm just sick of hearing that she should be trained etc and although my own mum would never dare to comment negatively i often sense from her that she thinks I should be trying harder to train her.
As it happens, after i posted this yesterday She did a wee willingly on her potty! i was amazed and gave her so much praise! she then had a nappy on for a while as we went out and about but in the afternoon when my mum had her, she did another on the potty! so hey ho, looks like she might be ready and willing after all. I'll take it easy though.
thank you everyone xxxxx