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Help..stop me from losing it with the in-laws!
Sorry for the big moan I'm about to have on this forum but I need to get this off my chest & it would be good to hear what you think. Hope It doesn't get too long!
My oh's parents are in the country and it's really stressing me out. It's mainly his mum who has never really liked me, the only apparent reason being that I am not greek (as are they). Before I had my lo I was basically ignored. When we told them I was pregnant with angelo she actually looked disgusted, mumbled 'congratulations' and immediately changed the subject to talk about her other sons wedding. They were in the country for the next few months of my pregnancy & it was never mentioned again. They were back when angelo was 6 weeks old (a visit timed for a cousins wedding rather than his arrival) and when they came over she would barely look at my beautiful angelo. They were there a couple of hours when my brother in law came round and practically forced her to hold him..she kept saying she was too tired, wtf! Even though the woman would barely say two words to me that same week she invited some relatives to mine without telling me, they turned up without warning whilst I was still in my pj's and struggling at being a new mum and basically socialised amongst themselves. It was obviuos she did that to wind me up.There were other things that upset me which I won't go into.
Thankfully after that visit I didnt have to see much more of them as they went back to england (and we live in Cyprus). Now they're back here and I just don't need it. This time his mum is all over angelo when they do visit but I can't stand it. She still obviously has no respect for me. A hello and snide comments meant to belittle me is all I get from her..she hasn't even asked how I am or how my pregnancy is going even though Ive have had a really difficult time of it (am now 7 months pregnant!).
The thing is I really can't bear having them around my lo. Should I just be thankful that they are good with him and surely that's the best thing for him? They were just here whilst oh was at work and all I wanted to do was tell them to piss off..of course I didn't. Also, am I right in not alowing them to go off with them on their own? I just feel so uncomfortable with it all.I always remember my oh's sister telling me to be careful as her mum is coniving! Also, we pretty much decided to move back to england next year but it's really putting me off as I will have to see them more often.
Do you think I should just let it go? At first I would try and make conversation but can't even bring myself to do that now!
Sorry again for the big long rant!
My oh's parents are in the country and it's really stressing me out. It's mainly his mum who has never really liked me, the only apparent reason being that I am not greek (as are they). Before I had my lo I was basically ignored. When we told them I was pregnant with angelo she actually looked disgusted, mumbled 'congratulations' and immediately changed the subject to talk about her other sons wedding. They were in the country for the next few months of my pregnancy & it was never mentioned again. They were back when angelo was 6 weeks old (a visit timed for a cousins wedding rather than his arrival) and when they came over she would barely look at my beautiful angelo. They were there a couple of hours when my brother in law came round and practically forced her to hold him..she kept saying she was too tired, wtf! Even though the woman would barely say two words to me that same week she invited some relatives to mine without telling me, they turned up without warning whilst I was still in my pj's and struggling at being a new mum and basically socialised amongst themselves. It was obviuos she did that to wind me up.There were other things that upset me which I won't go into.
Thankfully after that visit I didnt have to see much more of them as they went back to england (and we live in Cyprus). Now they're back here and I just don't need it. This time his mum is all over angelo when they do visit but I can't stand it. She still obviously has no respect for me. A hello and snide comments meant to belittle me is all I get from her..she hasn't even asked how I am or how my pregnancy is going even though Ive have had a really difficult time of it (am now 7 months pregnant!).
The thing is I really can't bear having them around my lo. Should I just be thankful that they are good with him and surely that's the best thing for him? They were just here whilst oh was at work and all I wanted to do was tell them to piss off..of course I didn't. Also, am I right in not alowing them to go off with them on their own? I just feel so uncomfortable with it all.I always remember my oh's sister telling me to be careful as her mum is coniving! Also, we pretty much decided to move back to england next year but it's really putting me off as I will have to see them more often.
Do you think I should just let it go? At first I would try and make conversation but can't even bring myself to do that now!
Sorry again for the big long rant!
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Just wanted to send you a hug as I have similar problems with my in-laws ( not yet resolved) so i'm not the best person to offer advice as I need it myself.!!! See my post about in-laws !!!!!!!!!!
I send you my sympathy because I know how hard it is to grin and bare it
MLM, I just read your post and sympathy right back atcha. It sounds like your mil wants to show her authority, if anything like mine she wants to be the 'alpha' woman...argh. Here's hoping we can triumph over the in-laws from hell..lol!x
Yes its a nightmare isn't it.Its the only thing that me and hubby ever fall out on.I always feel he sticks up for them - he says things like well they cook us dinner so we should be grateful etc ...But that's no excuse to be rude.
I had major problems with them straight after I had my daughter - they were so rude and inconsiderate that I will never ever forgive them !!!!!!!!!! I can barely look at them and try to avoid talking to them as much as possible.Which is hard as 2 years ago they decided to move to the next street from us grrrrrrrrrrrr.
I wish I could just put it all behind me and get on with them but I can't. :x
Hope things don't get to bad for you .xxxxx