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Any advice please it would be really really appreciated!
Hia Girls,
Could any of you help me. I've just given birth to my son in the most traumatic of circumstances, I had placent previa which kept me in hospital a week then had an emergency section at 35 wks and my son was in the Neonatal unit for 17 days. All the while my beautiful 18mth old daughter has had to put up with being at the hospital everyday and being left at her grans or my sisters and watch her mummy go through a stream of emotions. Before this I had left her maybe 4 times in the whole time I've had her which brings me to the problem. She really seems to have gone very naughty smacking out all the time, throwing dirty looks at us and when the midwife came round this morning she screamed at her. Her gran came round the other day and she went ballistic. She is however being really lovely with her brother. So I am confused as to whether its jealousy, anger at all the confusion we've been through or just the terrible twos early. What do you think and any ideas on how I can tackle this? I have tried to reassure her with loads of loves and kisses and keeping her involved but sometimes she just doesn't want to know. Help please if you have any?xxxx
Could any of you help me. I've just given birth to my son in the most traumatic of circumstances, I had placent previa which kept me in hospital a week then had an emergency section at 35 wks and my son was in the Neonatal unit for 17 days. All the while my beautiful 18mth old daughter has had to put up with being at the hospital everyday and being left at her grans or my sisters and watch her mummy go through a stream of emotions. Before this I had left her maybe 4 times in the whole time I've had her which brings me to the problem. She really seems to have gone very naughty smacking out all the time, throwing dirty looks at us and when the midwife came round this morning she screamed at her. Her gran came round the other day and she went ballistic. She is however being really lovely with her brother. So I am confused as to whether its jealousy, anger at all the confusion we've been through or just the terrible twos early. What do you think and any ideas on how I can tackle this? I have tried to reassure her with loads of loves and kisses and keeping her involved but sometimes she just doesn't want to know. Help please if you have any?xxxx
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I think she might be feeling a little rejected, and needs reassurance and patience. Its hard though because she does need to learn that she can't be naughty - I haven't been in the same situation but my daughter is also 16 months and has really started to try and push the boundaries so maybe its a bit of both - the changes involved with bringing your son home and her age. Also I wonder if her being upset at your Gran coming round means that she was worried about being left again?
Whatever it is, the fact that she is being so gentle towards her new brother shows what a lovely little girl she is. Congratulations by the way - it can't have been easy and i'm sure this will all be a lot easier soon.