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working hours dilemma - any suggestions please
I am due to return to work in the summer. i work evenings and weekends. This has been great as my husband works early shifts and he gets home and looks after our eldest. However my eldest is due to start pre-school next term. This means i will get to spend the day looking after baby and my husband can look after kids in the evening but my eldest will be at school most of the day and then coming home at the same time or just after i go to work. I've found it really hard that since the eldest was born i hardly ever see my husband but its been fantastic as my eldest has bonded so well with both of us and has had mimimal childcare elsewhere. I know that i will really miss him and i think its going to be really difficult for him too. he never minded me going to work as he has me all day and then daddy time all to himself but the other evening i had to pop to work and he's so used to me being at home he got really upset.
should i think about getting some dayshifts and putting baby into childcare earlier so there is more of a balance? i'm finding it a really dilemma but my husband can't see why i'm worrying!
thanks, julsey
should i think about getting some dayshifts and putting baby into childcare earlier so there is more of a balance? i'm finding it a really dilemma but my husband can't see why i'm worrying!
thanks, julsey
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i'm sure it will work out - its just hard thinking so far ahead when i don't know what he'll be like or how i will feel. i think i will try and arrange a childminder that can have him for 2 days and then it will be in place when i go back.
sarah - have you been working those shifts a long time and do you miss not been able to have days together as a family? i've found it quite a strain on my relationship with my husband...or is that just because of having kids(!)
xx