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3yr old doesnt want to go with her dad
hi there, i have an almost 3 year old daughter, and me and her dad split when she was 3 months old and i am now married to a great guy ive been with since my daughter was 9 months old and he is great with her. (and we arennow expecting another!!)/ my daughter sees her natural dad (who she does call 'daddy') usually 2 afternoons per week, but more and more she does not want to go with him. i know she is only 3 and cannot know what is best for her but i just wondered what would happen if this kept going on and on til shes older, do i have to make her see him. she has never stayed overnight with him, (he wont take her overnight as he only has one bedroom). he has another baby with a girl he is no longer with either and also sees this child one or 2 afternoons as far as i know.my child has no contact wth his other child, by arrangement by the other mum) ...me and her dad get on reasonably but i cant bare the heartache it causes to her to have to go with him. He says she is fine once she is away with him and she does seem ok when he brings her back.
Today he came over to get her and she didnt want to go, and for the first time we just let her stay with me.(she wasnt crying or anything just plainly said she wanted to stay with mummy today).. then when he left she said "im sad mummy" and i asked why and said "is it because you didnt go with daddy?do you want to go with daddy?" and she said "no, i sad when daddy comes over". i was almost in tears, the wee lamb!!
so i think im jst really looking for an opinion on the situation.
Today he came over to get her and she didnt want to go, and for the first time we just let her stay with me.(she wasnt crying or anything just plainly said she wanted to stay with mummy today).. then when he left she said "im sad mummy" and i asked why and said "is it because you didnt go with daddy?do you want to go with daddy?" and she said "no, i sad when daddy comes over". i was almost in tears, the wee lamb!!
so i think im jst really looking for an opinion on the situation.
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