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Feeling resentful of my toddler
He has turned into a total monster over the past few months.
I can handle the temper tantrums (He's two and a half so I've been expecting that) but I can't handle the way he rejects me. He would rather spend time with anyone other than me and if asked if he loves mummy he says no, he just loves daddy. This morning he announced out of the blue that he doesn't like mummy, he just likes daddy. After a sleepless night up with his little brother this was too much for me and I just burst into tears and now I can barely look at him. I'm finding that I'm starting to reject him the way he is rejecting me, which is ridiculous - I'm the adult, I need to rise above it, but I'm finding it all so hard.
Anyone else been through this? Please tell me it's just a phase. I've devoted the last 3 years entirely to his welfare and I so want to have a good relationship with my kids as they grow up.
I can handle the temper tantrums (He's two and a half so I've been expecting that) but I can't handle the way he rejects me. He would rather spend time with anyone other than me and if asked if he loves mummy he says no, he just loves daddy. This morning he announced out of the blue that he doesn't like mummy, he just likes daddy. After a sleepless night up with his little brother this was too much for me and I just burst into tears and now I can barely look at him. I'm finding that I'm starting to reject him the way he is rejecting me, which is ridiculous - I'm the adult, I need to rise above it, but I'm finding it all so hard.
Anyone else been through this? Please tell me it's just a phase. I've devoted the last 3 years entirely to his welfare and I so want to have a good relationship with my kids as they grow up.
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love fiona
But when it comes down to it - it does make me feel sad so you aren't alone. He hardly wants a hug anymore (although still puckers up for a kiss!), doesn't want to sit with me and read - only Daddy. Only wants Daddy in the mornings and cries whenever Daddy goes.
All I can say is I've been told its a phase and they do this sometimes. Next week it could be all about Mummy.
Toby is nearly 17 months.
So sorry you're feeling so sad - sending you a huge hug.
My only other suggestion - my hubby has learnt to read when I get upset about it, so he makes Toby spend time with me and goes away so T has no choice.
xxxxxx
They dont mean it tho hun,they just no the buttons to push when your feeling your worst,i used to reply to the i dont love you...with well mummy loves you very much........theres is light tho because i now have a mummy's boy even tho the time we spend together is only a little less then before and im still the 'meanie' in our house lol he tells me every day how much he loves me and walking back from nursery he holds my hand and gives it kisses and says 'mummy i missed you and i love you'
to come from where i was before with me feeling like he'd rather not have me as a mummy and wouldnt miss me it has changed full circle...hang in there hun next month it could be all about you xxxx
I can't offer any advice, maybe my hubby can, as its him that suffers this with Shea not me.
I have to do everything for him when I'm there, dad can not do a thing, dress him, wipe his bum, put him to bed, get his tea etc!! but I couldn't imagine feeling like this
I am sure its just a stage tho and he certainly doesn't mean to be nasty. He'll grow out of it and i'm sure he loves his mummy dearly!!
big hugs
xx
And, also it will be a phase. My friends DD1, whilst she is now closer to her Daddy than before DD2 came along, she is back to favouring Mummy at least as much as Daddy.
Sending you huge big hugs,
Ally
I guess the arrival of ds2 was always going to cause a few problems. We've had a nice enough day though, read a story, done some puzzles, baked some scones, hopefully given time and as much attention as possible ds1 will come round.
I do think its just a stage they r going through believe me, but its a case of holding in there till grows out of it.