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hit an all time low!!!
Hi to all,
I just to get it all off my chest really - so here goes.
Have been trying ttc for about 3 months now after having m/c back in Aug.
Every month when my period arrives the tears become more & more each month and my yearning grows abit more too.
My hubby thinks I'm obsessed with becoming pregnant, don't get me wrong - I think he's right!! He has tried to help. We even tried the ov sticks last month but although they worked I still am not pregnant as period has arrived early (Yesterday). I am devastated!! The worst thing is, I think deep down I blame him. On the day the ov sticks were saying I was fetile, hubby and I had a bit of a fall out. We had gone to bed & I thought he was more interested in the TV rather than not missing our window of opportunity. He ended up storming off downstairs - I went to talk to him calmly & later he came to bed and we did ml, but it was after the 12 hour window of opp. (according to the leaflet 12-24 hrs),so I don't know if that is the problem this month.
On the other hand - I'm wondering if hubby being so stressed with his (partnership) business not doing so well is affecting him & his little soldiers???
At the mo, since yesterday hubby & I are not speaking. I can't even look at him. My period arrived & I've just clamed up. I hide & cry to myself. He has asked me yesterday what is wrong - & why can't I even look at him.
I don't know what to say? I'm scared if he looks into my eyes he'll see that I blame him. Hasn't he already got enough to deal with?? Shouldn't I just be a good wife & mother and just get on with it?
My head & heart hurts so much - He's my soul mate. I know I can talk to him, but I don't want to hurt him. What do I do???
Sazzy xx
I just to get it all off my chest really - so here goes.
Have been trying ttc for about 3 months now after having m/c back in Aug.
Every month when my period arrives the tears become more & more each month and my yearning grows abit more too.
My hubby thinks I'm obsessed with becoming pregnant, don't get me wrong - I think he's right!! He has tried to help. We even tried the ov sticks last month but although they worked I still am not pregnant as period has arrived early (Yesterday). I am devastated!! The worst thing is, I think deep down I blame him. On the day the ov sticks were saying I was fetile, hubby and I had a bit of a fall out. We had gone to bed & I thought he was more interested in the TV rather than not missing our window of opportunity. He ended up storming off downstairs - I went to talk to him calmly & later he came to bed and we did ml, but it was after the 12 hour window of opp. (according to the leaflet 12-24 hrs),so I don't know if that is the problem this month.
On the other hand - I'm wondering if hubby being so stressed with his (partnership) business not doing so well is affecting him & his little soldiers???
At the mo, since yesterday hubby & I are not speaking. I can't even look at him. My period arrived & I've just clamed up. I hide & cry to myself. He has asked me yesterday what is wrong - & why can't I even look at him.
I don't know what to say? I'm scared if he looks into my eyes he'll see that I blame him. Hasn't he already got enough to deal with?? Shouldn't I just be a good wife & mother and just get on with it?
My head & heart hurts so much - He's my soul mate. I know I can talk to him, but I don't want to hurt him. What do I do???
Sazzy xx
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I've not been on this before but just wanted to say that the same thing has happened to me (sort of) in that I had m/c in early Jan and just about getting over that. I am a bit fed up of people telling me I will get pregnant again soon but the best advice I can think of is to relax (easier said than done!!) and concentrate on your man and your child/children (sorry - you said Mother in your post so I assume you are a mum) and the rest will follow. We tried for months to have our first baby and thankfully she is happy, healthy and beautiful so although I am mourning the baby I lost, I have to think of the baby I have got and my husband. I would talk to your hubby about how you feel, but at least ml when you are not seeing the 'window of opportunity' then he knows you want him for him and not as a baby making machine (which is what mine feels like) Hope this helps and try not to think about it as it really will happen!!
Catros
My other 3 children are just brill & I treasure each day with them....
I do need to talk to hubby about this though....
Thanks...the only problem I have is I don't when I ov because my periods are so irregular!!!
I'm just starting to learn about this mucus plug, so any advice would be greatly received and don't worry about TMI - how else can you explain these things!!!
Sazzy xx
So sorry to hear you are feeling so sad. I also became obsessed after my miscarriage in October and it does take all the fun out of baby making. Just wondering, have you tried the Boots digital thermometer and fertility diary. The thermometer is very very sensitve and picks up the changes in your body temp just before you ovulate. It worked for me. Just a thought. Good luck
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We sat down last night and had a really good heart-to-heart. He's my soulmate - my everything!!!
Last night he offered to go out & buy "Fertell" to test both of us (bless). I said, having given it alot of thought, this month, let's not try anything. No ov sticks, no counting days - Nothing!!!
Lets just go with the flow.....have fun.....stop trying so hard....enjoy ourselves.....relax....so that's what we are going to do!!
I had been trying to protect hubby from hurting his feelings so much that all I ended up doing was hurting myself even more so. Hubby was so loving & understanding. It's good to talk....
Keep you all posted...Thanks ...Sarah xx
Hope you're all o.k.? Feeling really funky now.
Hubby has even been popping home during the day to see if I'm o.k. It's weird working at home and not being in hubby's garage office, but it's alot warmer at home!!! The only downside is being apart for so long....never mind, as soon as it warms up, I'll move back into the work office. Not missing using ov sticks this month, even if I did get a hit using them last month.
Love to all...Sarah xx
have been ttc now for 9 months and not even so much as a false alarm the phase of tears etc does pass eventually but it is still devastating every month. been to see dr but they told me it was to early to do anyhting at least he diodnt tell me to loose weight which i thought he would he told me the oposite he said it didnt matter that i was overweight there's a first good luck to everyone