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"it will happen when you relax"

Af arrived today so we are going into month 4; not long in the grand scheme of things i know but was feeling down about it so finally caved and told a friend we were ttc but i hate the disappointment etc. Anyway, she said you need to relax about it or it will take much longer but my question is how?! When it is on your mind 24/7 how do you stop thinking about it?



Any ideas?

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  • When you find out please tell me! haha.

    We are onto month 8, and every month i tell myself 'we arnt proply trying, just if it happens it happens' but then you find yourself obsessing, lol.

    Good Luck and hope you get you BFP soon.



  • i hate it when people say relax lol it really drives me nuts ha ha. . How can relax we are working to a tight schedule here! X x
  • Weirdly enough, for a lot of ladies this really does seem to be the case! The month I got my bfp we only bd a few days before ov and then my oh went away for a week so I was relaxed about it cos I was sure we would never have done it! Only we had!! It was a very chilled 2ww and maybe that helped? We were also due to see a fertility specialist the next month so had all but given up on it happening for us without clomid!

    There's no real way of taking your mind off it though, like you say it's always there in your mind! Just keep doing the deed and have fun with it!

    Baby dust lovely ladies xxx
  • I fell with DS1 after obsessing and not drinking for 6 months, on cycle 7 I went skiing, drank every night, had no internet access and got my BFP the night we got back....I was so in shock.



    Just got back from skiing haha so hoping it might be a double success haha....testing in 10 days
  • It's so difficult to relax! Been promoted at work and new job is very stressful. Ended up screaming silently in a loo cubicle this morning!!! image I'm really worried this is going to stop it happening.... image xx
  • it's so hard to relax. with DD it was an accidental pregnancy and it was the furthest thing from my mind until discovered I was pg, so when we decided to ttc number 2 I thought 'oh it'll be easy...' but I'm SO obsessed worried that it'll not happen image

    but it's good to hear stories about when folk did manage to forget about it then it happened! need to go skiing I think or send OH away for a bit! :lol:
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  • Hmmmm, people who have never had trouble conceiving or don't have kids usually spout out this old cliche.



    Personally, I think it's rubbish.



    I got really stressed TTC DD and I did a lot of research about the effect of stress.



    There's no doubt it can delay OV but it has to be massive stress. Women living in war zones who are constantly fearing for their lives, for example, often don't OV.



    Even at my most stressed, I don't think it was anywhere near that level and I still managed to conceive - in month four in fact.



    I hope month four is the lucky one for you.



    Don't stress about the stressing, it makes no difference.



    B xx
  • Thanks MonkeyNuts, I really appreciate that. Interesting to know
  • Hello there, was just going to add something along the same lines as monkeynuts, I've read that normal stress, worries about ttc etc cant upset your cycles, its extreme stress over a longer period of time. Perhaps a marriage breakup or something like that could do, but hopefully none of us are going through something like that!!!



    Was also going to add that depending on your personality and if you are already thinking about ttc 24/7, it may be better to do something to feel in control rather than desperately trying to relax and forget about it.



    I am 9 weeks preg with number two, got pregnant straight away with number one and was panicking like mad over number two as I expected the same but by the end of month 4, nothing. So we bought a CBFM, I started taking my temp each day and also used OPKs to predict ov as well as CBFM - my hubby thought I was going over the top but it immediately made me feel 100% better, just buying all those things and taking control. Got my BFP that very month.



    ITs not for everyone but just offering an alternative to trying to relax about it if you're just not that type of person like me - control freak!!



    Good luck and hope you get your BFPs very soon! xxx
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