I'm ovulating!!!
I'm ovultating!!! Just had my first positive on the OPKs! So, what should my POA be?
How much BDing?? every day? More than 1 x a day?
How many days will I be fertile for?
Any best positions?
Thanks for the tips?
Also, any tips for DH??
Thanks!!
How much BDing?? every day? More than 1 x a day?
How many days will I be fertile for?
Any best positions?
Thanks for the tips?
Also, any tips for DH??
Thanks!!
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apricotmoon, how come OPK'S not picking up?
Now another problem, and I'm really not sure what to do about it.
My DH is really feeling the pressure at the mo as all our friends have babies or are pregnant. In the last week or so he says it's all he's been thinking about.
Anyway, to cut a long story short he can get an erection, but it having trouble maintaining it. This is the first time it's ever happened (we've been together more than 10 years) so it has to be linked to the fact that he's thinking about us getting pregnant when doing the deed.
It's happened three days in a row now and it's starting to affect him. Has anyone else experienced this? Can anyone offer advice on how to overcome this so we can get back on track next cycle?
Thanks
You already hit the nail on the head, in that he's feeling the pressure. You need to have a chat to confirm you're both sure about babies. Sometimes the reality of the possibility of it happening can be quite daunting rather than the we'd love to have babies convo. This isn't necessarily the case at all but is something I asked my hubby.
I think the most likely cause is the sudden terrifying pressure to perform. He's probably feeling that it's all on him - they don't realise we're feeling exactly the same thing!! You need to keep the fun in things - I'm not saying you aren't, but it's incredibly easy to get too caught up in ttc. If you've told him you're ov'ing, then he'll be thinking right it's all down to me now, and he's scared of letting you both down! The same way we feel when our cycles aren't regular and ov is unpredictable and also every time af arrives we feel like a failure.
For us it's happened a few times, and I think it's a mixture of feeling like he has to perform on command, and that it's all about having a baby and not very much about having fun. Both of us are desperate to get pregnant so sometimes it's just a bit much! We make sure we still have fun, with it being less about focusing on the rights and wrongs of ttc - being in the right position, careful timing etc!
It all sounds very easy when you say it like that, and you sit there thinking of course it's fun, but you are both putting yourselves under too much pressure! Don't worry, tread carefully and it won't be a longterm problem.
Baby dust xxx
hope you're all well and ready for xmas xx