Anyone on here with endometriosis or fibroids? Needing some reassurance please
I'm a newbie, so apologies if this is in the wrong place.
My OH and I aren't actually trying to conceive atm - our original plan was to move in together, get married in 2017, then start trying for a family immediately after. But then I got rushed to A&E with insane[/i] stomach cramps in April. I got referred to a gynaecologist. She suspects endometriosis, although there's an outside chance I could have fibroids as my Mum and my Nan have had them in the past. I've got a laparoscopy in a couple of weeks to do a proper examination and try to fix it, but I've been warned that if it is either endometriosis or fibroids I could have difficulty conceiving & be at higher risk of miscarriage.
I've been reading up on both conditions, and the stuff I've read recommends that women try to conceive as soon as possible after surgery, due to the risk of the conditions recurring. We're really not in a position to have children atm - we don't live together, I wanted to give up work until our children go to school and that would not be an option right now, we've already paid out deposits for our wedding and I don't know whether we'd be able to afford the balances if we had a child, and we've never been on a holiday together so we wanted to have at least one holiday abroad just us before we have any children.
I have anxiety issues anyway, and don't deal well with plans being changed - and this is a massive change. I'm terrified about the surgery (especially the idea of a general anaesthetic - I hate the idea that I won't know what's going on), work have called me for a formal meeting about my sick leave so the stress is making the pain & anxiety worse, and if we get news that there might be fertility complications then I don't know what we're going to do.
Has anyone else on here gone through this? Words of wisdom/reassurance would be greatly appreciated.