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Trying to conceive - Perimenopause

Is anyone experiencing the same? ๐Ÿ˜ฅย 

I'm 31 and had my youngest child 6 years ago. Last year after several doctor's appointments. I was told it's extremely likely I'm experiencing Perimenopause. I've always wanted 3 children (I currently have two boys) and the idea of having the choice to conceive taken away has been so upsetting. My husband and I have decided it's now or never! For the last 4 months I've been using the ClearBlue Ovulation sticks as my periods are totally irregular. I feel like I'm going out of my mind. I've used about 100 ovulation sticks and 11 pregnancy tests. I'm now 4 days post ovulation and the waiting to test is killing me. I'm so scared this is it for me. I'm dreaming about being pregnant, I've got several getting pregnant tracking apps. Am I the only one out there feeling like a total crazy nut. Waiting, tracking and testing constantly. I know I'm only 4 months in to trying but I feel like the pressure is deafening!

None of our family or friends know yet and it's hard to explain how I feel to my husband. I would be great to hear from women in a similar situation.ย  Has anyone else conceived in Perimenopause? If so how long did it take? Any hints and tips would be great.
Thank you!ย 


  • @Anastasia90 I am sorry to hear you are so stressed. I am sorry to hear you are in perimenopause but so sooo many people get pregnant at this stage so try and stay positive. Easier said than done I know. Can I ask how you know you are in perimenopause?

    My first baby is one this week and my husband and I going to start ttc baby number 2. Before I got pregnant with my first I had tests done and found my egg count was low for my age. Also my mum had early menopause, so I suspect that if I am not in perimenopause that I will be soon. So I am feeling the pressure a bit too and have the old clear blue ovulation sticks at the ready ๐Ÿ™ˆย 

    You have my sympathies xxย 
  • Thanks for your lovely message. I had no idea to be honest. I had a 5 year IUD which ran out a couple months after the first lockdown. But I still had little or no period. I never tracked them because it would be so little every once in a while. I finally had it out Feb 2021. But the ladies nearly bit my head off and wouldn't put another one in because I'd had unprotected sex in the last week and could be pregnant ๐Ÿคฆโ€โ™€๏ธ I booked to see my nurse practitioner as I had other things going on anyway and thought I'd get a test whilst there. Anyway my other things were all symptoms of early menopause. Which had been going on over the last 2 years. I was asked to tracked my cycles now the IUD was removed and had a couple blood tests over 6 months which resulted in Perimenopause.ย 

    It's all been a huge shock really! I never thought I'd run out of time. Im lucky in the fact I have my two boys but extremely sad to think they could be my last pregnancy.

    I hope TTC your second goes well! It's so exciting trying but so stressful at the same time ๐Ÿ˜†
  • @Anastasia90 thank you. I'm sure it was a massive shock to you. It's wonderful you have 2 gorgeous boys but I can imagine it's v difficult to feel the decision may have been removed from you.

    But I have heard of sooo many people being in perimenopause and getting pregnant so try and stay positive ๐Ÿ˜Š also have you tried ubiquinol? It is supposed to help with egg quality. I took it before I got pregnant and followed some advice from that book 'it starts with the egg' as I knew my egg count was lower so I wanted to make sure whatever ones I had were as good as possible. The only thing I never quite followed was cutting out alcohol. I do love a wee gin at the weekend and felt I needed something lol I am taking ubiquinol again and trying to only have one coffee a day but again I am still having my gin ๐Ÿ˜‚xx
  • Oh I do love a wee gin myself! I'm down to one coffee a day and actively trying to eat healthy food. But with the sunshining it hard to cut a glass of wine or gin in the garden ๐Ÿ˜‚

    Do you have any recommendations forย ubiquinol I just googled it and there's loads!
  • I bought the ubiquinol not the ubiqinone as ubiquinol is the active form of Q10. So it's easier for your body to absorb. I ordered the 'nature's best' ubiquinol and take 2 per day. It's not cheap ๐Ÿ™ˆ But people swear by it and I used it last time.

    There was a web page I found called 'to make a mom' and the lady who created it had a low egg count and was heading into early menopause. She was told she would never naturally conceive and to consider a donor egg. She now has 2 little girls โค๏ธ But she did go hard core.... Def no gin or wine lol

    I also found that being healthy and walking more helped, even mentally. You feel like you're doing something. I also had acupunture to try and balance hormones...i went all out, but still had the gin ๐Ÿ˜‚

    It's all about balance lol xx
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