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TTC after miscarriage before AF arrives
Hi all,
I had an ERPC on 21 January, nearly one week ago. I have recovered well and had very little bleeding. I normally have a 28 day cycle and my last period prior to being pregnant was 27 October. I know they say that your period should arrive between four and six weeks after the ERPC. Should your period come back around the same time it would have if you had not fallen pregnant eg end of Feb? Does anyone know when I would expect to ovulate?
I am unsure whether to follow medical advice and wait until my first period arrives as at least then I will know when I will ovulate and can ensure we are having sex at the right times.
I am still devastated following my miscarriage and think the only way I will feel better will be to be pregnant again. If anything happened with my second pregnancy I would be worried that it was because I did not follow the Doctors advice to wiat for my first period.
Any help would be greattly appreciated.
I had an ERPC on 21 January, nearly one week ago. I have recovered well and had very little bleeding. I normally have a 28 day cycle and my last period prior to being pregnant was 27 October. I know they say that your period should arrive between four and six weeks after the ERPC. Should your period come back around the same time it would have if you had not fallen pregnant eg end of Feb? Does anyone know when I would expect to ovulate?
I am unsure whether to follow medical advice and wait until my first period arrives as at least then I will know when I will ovulate and can ensure we are having sex at the right times.
I am still devastated following my miscarriage and think the only way I will feel better will be to be pregnant again. If anything happened with my second pregnancy I would be worried that it was because I did not follow the Doctors advice to wiat for my first period.
Any help would be greattly appreciated.
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So sorry to hear about your erpc.
I had an erpc at the end of September, and my period came back roughly 30 days later. However other people took longer for that first af to arrive, so I don;t think there are any hard and fast rules about it.
As for trying again before your af - I think this is really up to the both of you. I know of ladies who fell pg right after a mc who carried to full term and had healthy babies, but then I also know ladies who fell pg and sadly mc'd again. Again, I don;t think there are any definite answers to your question.
For myself, I waited three cycles before ttc again, and I was so glad of the head space to come to terms with our loss and to begin to feel positive again.
xxSara
im kinda in the same boat as you, before my miscarriage, my last period was 28th OCT so our babies would have been due around the same time
i miscarried over xmas and only stopped bleeding a week ago. I also have no idea when my period will arrive...except being told it can be 4-6 weeks! as far as i know it wont necessarily come around the same time as usual, kuz your cycle will now be different due to the miscarriage.
My gyno advised me that now i have stopped bleeding we can start ttc stright away without waiting 1 cycle (i miscarried naturally)...but from what my gyno said there is not an incresed risk of miscarriage if you do get pregnant before AF. she also said it depends on the person, but it is possible to ovulate 2 weeks after the miscarriage.
i know what you mean about just wanting to be preg again, which is why we have started ttc again before AF!
i dont know if this helped at all, but good luck with ttc hope you get some good news soon! xxx
I asked a similar question a few weeks ago - check out my other topics.
I was told to wait between 1 - 3 cycles, with my local gp telling me to wait at least 2 cycles before we ttc again.
I bled for 8 weeks and was so frustrated at being stuck in limbo. ive stopped bleeding now (since the weekend) and we've had a few "accidents".
ive been told that there is no medical reason other than dating reasons to wait for first AF - and that can be sorted with a dating scan.
I know its early days for you hun, but I mc 9 weeks ago and Im feeling a lot more positive about ttc and the future. I obv was devasted when it all happened, but just wanted to let you know that it does get easier.
x x x
It's hard after a mc cause your never quite sure what your body will do.
I have been told that the wait is just for dating purposes.
Wishing you lots of luck if you decide to go for it xxx
The first time we bd'd (sunday) it felt very strange to me. I can totally understand why you got upset.
It's very hard isn't it?
Keep trying hun, it'll happen again for you - and all of us!
xxx
The first time we bd it was awful. I couldnt believe that I had lost my baby, with all the hopes and dreams that come with it but things do come right in the end. I do think of my first pg, especially on my DD and on the day the boys were born. It doesnt go away but it does get easier.
Just wanted to share my success to give you all a bit of hope. Good Luck to you all.
Gemma, Ryan and Alfie 16 + 5