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How to cope with broodyness?
Hello everyone, Im new! Although I have been lurking for a while
I just wanted peoples advice, or even better, your stories, about how you decided when to have a baby?
Ive been EXTREMELY broody for about 3 years, more obsessive than anything. My OH of 7 years doesnt want a baby 'right now' (whatever that means ), but the feeling has been literally taking over my life. OHs 2 cousins had babies a few months ago at the same time, and cant help but cry whenever somone mentions them My 3yo nephew makes me upset too. I wanted to hear your stories... did you have a difficult time convincing the OH? Did you have goals that needed achieving before you tried? Were any of you obsessed and how did you cope with it?
Am I normal?
Forgot to say Im 24 (OH 27), own house, im doing a part time degree, OH has stable FT job, have 2 beautiful doggies.
Thanks for listening )
I just wanted peoples advice, or even better, your stories, about how you decided when to have a baby?
Ive been EXTREMELY broody for about 3 years, more obsessive than anything. My OH of 7 years doesnt want a baby 'right now' (whatever that means ), but the feeling has been literally taking over my life. OHs 2 cousins had babies a few months ago at the same time, and cant help but cry whenever somone mentions them My 3yo nephew makes me upset too. I wanted to hear your stories... did you have a difficult time convincing the OH? Did you have goals that needed achieving before you tried? Were any of you obsessed and how did you cope with it?
Am I normal?
Forgot to say Im 24 (OH 27), own house, im doing a part time degree, OH has stable FT job, have 2 beautiful doggies.
Thanks for listening )
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Has your OH said when he might want a baby? Not really got any goals except lose 7lb and be more healthier with my eating habits.
OH is never specific about anything, its always 'just not right now'. Grrrr. I think he wants to save up money, but thats not likely to ever happen :roll:
You could try what I do - when you are out and about for every gorgeous baby/toddler you see you must find three obnoxious, hideous, "thank God they're not mine" babies/toddlers. Works every time.
I do try to think "oh well, i dont need to deal with the horrible things"
but it doesnt really work, does it?
I do keep thinking that the day that we get bfp's we'll feel extra blessed-but until then it is hard!!
I do try to think "oh well, i dont need to deal with the horrible things"
but it doesnt really work, does it?
I do keep thinking that the day that we get bfp's we'll feel extra blessed-but until then it is hard!!
I find my broodyness is eased a little now I have a let ttc date, We have had Dec 09 in mind for about a year now. I think having a disscusion with you OH so you have a month in mind to begin, whether it is in 6months or 12 months I think helps x
To keep my broodiness at bay I spend time on here and look at baby gear. Maybe not the best thing for it but it keeps me busy!! xx
this has been ok for me, i go through terrible phases of broodiness but in last fews months have been diagnosed with folate issue causing very low folic acid level and by docs orders no TTC until levels raised hopefully they will be raised for june when i now plan to come off the pill & try to get some normality back to my cycles & still plan on ttc dec 10 etc. however planning to wait & having to wait (knowing we cant have any little accidents) is killing me, everyso often i break down on the phone to my mum or mil. my best friend who has 2 wee girls (both accidents) cant understand why i get upset
I hope it helps to know you are not the only women out there and you are SO normal! hehe! I am so broody everytime a baby comes into work, I want to cry and literally STARE at it! I have to stop myself and go 'Don't like babies, don't like babies!!!' hehe xXx
The sadest thing happened in Asda the other day. I was buying pregnancy/preconcepting vits and the woman on the till asked me if I was 'expecting' I didn't know what to say other than 'Well, trying' because 'well, preparing my health prior to trying' just seems like a lot to go into.
I'm exactly the same. Have really wanted a baby for the last few years but its now an obsession (since my friend got pg). My OH is always the one who says its not the right time and no one can convince him otherwise! He says we can think about it if he gets a new job but i'm sure if he does he'll come up with another excuse. Considering he says he really wants kids he's got a funny way of showing it.
LOL Adelicia, I know what you mean with all the kids at work... I worked at Bristol Zoo up till recently, and it was jam packed FULL of newborns and mums walking around and trying to talk to me! It was the babies in slings that made me want to run off and cry :roll:
I like the idea of planning a date for the future... Im just worried OH will think thats a bit too real ( And then the people around me all start getting preggers 'by accident' and it makes me really annoyed!
Mrs Norden, hope you get fit and healthy very soon, it must be really frustrating!
LOL Adelicia, I know what you mean with all the kids at work... I worked at Bristol Zoo up till recently, and it was jam packed FULL of newborns and mums walking around and trying to talk to me! It was the babies in slings that made me want to run off and cry :roll:
I like the idea of planning a date for the future... Im just worried OH will think thats a bit too real ( And then the people around me all start getting preggers 'by accident' and it makes me really annoyed!
Mrs Norden, hope you get fit and healthy very soon, it must be really frustrating!
it is but knowing we will be having a bundle of joy soon is keeping me going posative thoughts.
have a nice dinner & get a few drinking in your OH & start to have the talk, about what plans you have for next few yrs etc, any big hols planned etc. we originally planned to visit my fam in auz feb 2011 and that we would ttc as of that hol, after a falling out with fam we have now changed minds but kept the date as it works for us
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My sister has a baby and I love him to bits but when she was in hospital having him I was jealous because I just wished it was me! My family were making jokes that I would steal him! :L
We have been talking about it a lot and my husband has even started to say that he really wants a baby 'soon' which for him means in the next few years but we have said that we can start to try (if I still really want to) next summer. This has def made me feel better because it feels more real now and I feel like this time next year I could be pregnant!!!
We have travelled quite a bit and enjoy it so much and we like our meals out etc but none of that really excites me as much any more, as much as having my own baby. Sigh.
I have started to come on here so that I don't feel llike a freak and it is good to know there are other really broody ladies out there!
xxx
i feel like cryin sometimes seeing all these new mums goin round the shoppin center with their new babies an i want it to be me so much, i feel it shuld be me pushing the buggies round. very jealous.
i'm hopefully going to be TTC next year, i am very excited but also scared incase it dont work.
also glad i'm not the only one who obsesses over babies. i could tak about them all day lol
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