“At bedtime, if babies feel safe, they sleep” ... what an unhelpful upsetting comment! As the Mum of an otherwise happy and lovely 13 month old who rarely goes to sleep despite months of trying to implement advice like in this article, is this implying that my baby doesn’t feel safe?! How guilt-inducing and unhelpful for me to read as a sleep-deprived mum!
Ah yes ... the old 'put baby down when awake... nonsense. So when baby falls asleep at the breast ... as young babies tend to do, what are you supposed to do? Wake the baby JUST to put her to bed? Nursing is a natural and expected way of lulling baby to sleep. And does NOT mean she will go to college needing to nurse to sleep, or that there is some age when it's suddenly 'wrong.'
I would also object to the 'pump milk early in the day so daddy can feed at night' advice Again -- how does this make life easier? Mom is already probably nursing every 2 hours all day. And now she has to find time to pump as well? And perhaps mom doesn't want to introduce bottles at all? Better, perhaps, for daddy to BRING the baby to mom for one of the night feeds, so she can doze while baby feeds, and then daddy can return baby to bed. Or keep baby in a bassinet close by, so you don't have to get up for the night feeds. USUALLY, by the time baby is too big for a bassinet, she is down to just 1-2 middle of the night feeds anyway, so those should not be a great issue for mom.
And the assumption that once baby is on solids, she will sleep the night. Maybe yes, maybe no. Solids are a VERY small part of baby's diet at first, and are not likely to make baby suddenly go 8-10 hours at a stretch just because she's getting a teaspoon of applesauce.
AND -- the assumption that there will be a time when feeds change from 'on demand' to 'every 4 hours.' My daughter nursed on demand until she was weaned from the breast at 14 months. And slept longer when SHE was ready.
Thanks for your comments on this article, Emn and Kittymom. We agree with you about the 'baby feels safe' comment and have edited the article to reflect this. The advice in this article was written by 'Supernanny' Jo Frost a few years ago– and reflects her views on the best ways to help a baby to sleep better. We know lots of parents find Jo Frost's advice very helpful but we also know here are lots of differing views on this topic. We'll have a think about how we can add to our baby-sleep content to reflect a broader range of views and parenting styles. Thank you - we're grateful for your feedback.
Hi, we Have 3month baby boy, we do have sleeping issue and most of the time he is not sleeping well and keep crying so loudly and he made us to take him and walk him in the house and when he is ready to sleep we put him down all of the sudden he wakes up, during the night we do not have problem but during a day we are struggling alot, it seems he is very alert to everything except sleeping. Therefore he is not getting enough sleep and he keeps crying during a day.
Hi @armin.ghodrati Welcome to the site though we're sorry to hear about your little boys sleeping problems. You happened to have posted on an old article which not many people will see - can we suggest you come and post your question on our chat forum by pressing here.
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I would also object to the 'pump milk early in the day so daddy can feed at night' advice Again -- how does this make life easier? Mom is already probably nursing every 2 hours all day. And now she has to find time to pump as well? And perhaps mom doesn't want to introduce bottles at all? Better, perhaps, for daddy to BRING the baby to mom for one of the night feeds, so she can doze while baby feeds, and then daddy can return baby to bed. Or keep baby in a bassinet close by, so you don't have to get up for the night feeds. USUALLY, by the time baby is too big for a bassinet, she is down to just 1-2 middle of the night feeds anyway, so those should not be a great issue for mom.
And the assumption that once baby is on solids, she will sleep the night. Maybe yes, maybe no. Solids are a VERY small part of baby's diet at first, and are not likely to make baby suddenly go 8-10 hours at a stretch just because she's getting a teaspoon of applesauce.
AND -- the assumption that there will be a time when feeds change from 'on demand' to 'every 4 hours.' My daughter nursed on demand until she was weaned from the breast at 14 months. And slept longer when SHE was ready.
The advice in this article was written by 'Supernanny' Jo Frost a few years ago– and reflects her views on the best ways to help a baby to sleep better. We know lots of parents find Jo Frost's advice very helpful but we also know here are lots of differing views on this topic. We'll have a think about how we can add to our baby-sleep content to reflect a broader range of views and parenting styles. Thank you - we're grateful for your feedback.
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Armin
Welcome to the site though we're sorry to hear about your little boys sleeping problems. You happened to have posted on an old article which not many people will see - can we suggest you come and post your question on our chat forum by pressing here.