I think I've lost them
I think I've lost my babies. I dont know what to do. I went to get some dinner with my son at a garden centre, and went to have a wee. When I wiped there was brown blood. We came home, a 40 min journey, and I wiped again to find brown blood with brown stringy stuff, maybe tiny clots? Or my babies? I didn't say anything, but I know I got pregnant, as I did a early test on Fri morning and it came up with a very light but definate line. I didn't want to announce it as I was naughty to do one so early and i couldn't quite believe it and wanted to wait until the clinic confirmed it on Tues. Now I think they are gone. I am sat here and cant stop crying, my son is in the other room and I just cant speak. I really need a friend, anyone, but I cant talk to anyone as the IVF has been kept rather quiet as it usually is. The only friends who know are one who has recurrent miscarriages - cant cry to her for obvious reasons, and a friend who has no children - she wouldn't understand how I feel. I am sat here all alone, apart from being in charge of my autistic son and I cant take it. I know if I ring a dr they couldnt help me, what do I do??
I'm so sorry for posting this, I just feel so depressed and lonely. My husband is with his family and doesn't like to be disturbed, someone please help
I'm so sorry for posting this, I just feel so depressed and lonely. My husband is with his family and doesn't like to be disturbed, someone please help
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Please try to stop worrying!!!! Brown blood isn't anything to get too worried about as it could easily be from implantation - it's only if it turns to full on red AF that you might have lost them, even then some women do have a bleed and are still pg. We can't know either way at this stage obviously, but I definitey wouldn't presume you have lost them yet, especially as you got an early positive yesterday. Please please please try and relax, if your little embies are still in there trying to implant they need you to be calm and relaxed...so try and just hold onto that thought and wait it out a bit more. I know it is probably hell on earth worrying they could be gone but I really think they could still be in there and just digging in nice and deep. Try and rest, if your son likes videos or reading books or something quiet then do that with him so you can lie o the sofa, and try and keep up your positive thoughts. You are definitely not out of the race yet!!! Thinking of you chick, sending you big hugs.x.
I agree with Trixie, try and stop worrying. Could you maybe try and do another test - or have you done that already??
Thinking of you hun xx
I've got my fingers crossed for you that the babies are just 'bedding in'.
Having been through it (and just about to re-start after losing my first), you are welcome to give me a call if you want to chat. My email is [email protected].
Take care
Emma xx
Debbie, I might just do another test tomorrow and monday to check levels. Hope your doing ok x
Thank you for your lovely replies, I'll let you know xxx
I've only just logged on and seen your post - sending massive hugs and lots of thoughts to you. As the other ladies have said, this could just be delayed implantation - or any number of things, think about all the drugs that have been pumped through your system these last few weeks too. Also, it's really good that the bleeding has stopped now although even if it comes back don't worry - my friend is 32 weeks pregnant and bled for the first 6 weeks and everything is absolutely fine with her now, different bodies seem to do different things.
You keep rested for the rest of the weekend, try and watch some easy-viewing TV or a girly DVD or flick through a magazine and keep calm. Do you have any Zita West books/CDs? I find her visualisation and relaxation techniques really helpful. Remember, you have done everything you can and it's out of your hands now - focus on sending your embies positive thoughts and lots of love.
Sending you all my love - take care, Kate xxx
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Sorry to read your post, I am thinking of you and hopefully you will get the news you are hoping for.
Sarah
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Take care. x
Mandy
Pleased that the test was positive, fingers crossed it all works out for you.
Sarah
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I am pleased to hear that the test today was positive but sorry to hear about your stress. Hang on in there until Tuesdays test and keep trying to relax. Thinking of you xxx
Got everything crossed for you. x
Mandy
Hope you are all well xxx
So glad that the bleeding has stopped and you are getting a positive result on the CBD tests!!! That's great news : ) Keep resting and looking after yourself. Looking forward to hearing it all confirmed tomorrow, but congratulations all the same on being pregnant!!!
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