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Frustrated and Scared
After years of trying to conceive we finally get through the egg retrieval only to find out we now have to wait for a d&c. I'm frustrated with this whole process and tired of being asked if I'm ever going to have kids. I have beautiful god children that I can't bare to see because it's just a painful reminder of our situation. If I hear 'why aren't you pregnant, its easy' one more time I'm not sure I will be able to keep my mouth shut. Just emotional and tired of the hand we've been dealt.
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Staying Hopeful, Firstly I am so sorry its been so hard for you. I'm also having issues to at the moment and under investigation about my fertility. To say its frustrating is an understatement. I almost feel embarrassed that my body isn't doing what it should be doing. Please stay strong, easier said than done I know but your time will come. I'm waiting on AF to arrive today and every month it never gets any easier
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Hi I hope you don’t mind me joining the chat as I have been looking for people to talk to in the same situation as us. I have been trying to conceive for 15months and have had 2 early misscariges and now have been referred to fertility clinic for investigation as I’m 34. Just found out have something wrong with my thyroid that can cause misscarige so in medication now and waiting patiently for our appointment in June for further investigation and to top it off just found out we are going to be auntie & uncle again was so hard to act normal xxxx
Hi ladies
Hope you don’t mind me joining. I’ve been telling myself for a while to join to speak to people who understand the frustrations of ttc and fertility investigations. I really do hope things get easier for us all and having read through people’s posts it has made me feel we aren’t alone through this even tho right now I couldn’t feel more alone. Staying Hopeful I truly understand the “when are you having babies” comments - I feel I’ve distanced myself from so many people over the past 2 years especially when they say that 2 years is not too long ”it’ll happen if you just relax” 😠👊🏼...it feels like a life time! If only they knew how we felt!!
I have been the same hopingfirbabyD feeling so alone because know one around me is going through the same they all get pregnant at the drop of a hat, so it feels anyway. Are you going through any treatment just now or just starting to look into things? It is a hard lonley road isn’t it and you try not to let it consume you but is on your mind 24/7 so easier said than done and the next person that says it will happen for you I know it will you just want to punch them in the face 😂😂
im here for you anyway for support 😘xxx
Hi babymoon29 so nice to hear from you 😊 my partner is very black and white and I think for a while I have been in the mindset of feeling positive and then it all came crashing down this month mostly because I think I’ve been in denial of feeling so lonely but it really is the loneliest feeling.
One of our close friends came off BC the same month as me in Sept 16 and fell within 3 months, she then fell again this month after coming off the pill last month and I think that was the breaking point for me. While I’m happier for her and others around me I can’t help feeling “why not me?!”
Ive had my CD 3-5 and 21 bloods this month I have my internal and ultrasound on Thursday. It’s very frustrating as I’ve had all these last year but the doc ordered them again as they are over 6 months old.
I suffer really badly with painful periods and my local gp have passed it off as IBS but now saying it might be endo which has really worried me.
I cant wait to see a little light at the end of this cloudy road.
Have you or are you having any tests at the minute?
A punch in the face is pending with the ones who say “relax and it’ll happen when you least expect it” 😂
Apologies for the long ramble, I haven’t got this stuff off my chest for so long especially to anyone who fully understands.
I’m here for you too so nice to meet ladies going through similar things xx
I know it is so hard when someone that close to you falls pregnant so easily and unless you go through this you never fully understand. And I also feel bad that I actually have jealousy and anger about it and makes me feel awful about myself as I’m not like that 🤦🏼♀️ your mind drives you crazy and although my hubby is so supportive and goes along with anything I want us to do. Men do not think of it the way we do and does not seem as worried as me.
i fell pregnant really quickly may 2017 but had a miscarriage in July 2017 and had to get a D&C and was an absolutely awful experience and was told I could not try for 3 months I don’t know if that was more for a metal thing than pysical as i could not have coped if it happened again so soon. So then I fell pregnant again really quickly in January 2018 and misscaried only a couple of weeks later but just came away it’s self and was devastated again so nothing since then so we got private scans and tests and he said my fertility was good for my age but had pcos but was not worried about it as I’m not over weight 🤷🏼♀️ And I also have something wrong with my thyroid so on medication for that now. But because of my age (nearly 35) the NHS are looking into it now and have my first appointment at the fertility clinic two weeks today after a 3 month wait so I don’t know what they will do or say.
It is really nice to find someone in the same situation as know one gets it unless you go throu it and you start to feel as if you are never going to be a Mum 😢
the two week wait is always the worst every little feeling I am googling to see if it’s early signs and I wish I had bought shares in clear blue between ovulation tests and pregnancy tests 💰. I’m currently on a two week wait just now as I ovulated Thursday/Friday last week but I know the outcome already, would be to good to be true.
fingers crossed for us both 😘xxx
Babymoon29 I cannot begin to think just how painful things have been for you and I just wanted to send over a big hug 🤗
My partner and your hubby sound very similar, sometimes I think I sound crackers with the stuff I come out with to him I just wish I could forget things - knowing my body so well is one of the most annoying things I’ve done since ttc. Even when I take a month off thinking about it I know just what it’s doing.
The two week wait really is the worst isn’t it, I‘m really hoping you get to the bottom of things with the NHS in a couple of weeks I can’t imagine the pain and suffering you’ve been through.
I phoned the fertility specialists secretary today to see when we would get to speak to him properly and she said not until the end of June when he will run through our results and your options. Is this what your meeting is for do you think?
I know they probably know how frustrated we are but I don’t feel as tho my hospital or doctors really explain what is happening and if I do tell them I’m struggling a bit it’s a mere “here, have a tissue” and then I leave feeling silly.
I’m keeping all my fingers & toes crossed for you for this month! Xx
Aww thank you HopingforbabyD big hugs back.
i can’t believe you have to wait until end of June for your appointment you must be going crazy. I think our first appointment is scans for me to see what’s going on but we have already had that private so will just go with the flow and keep trying ourselve. I was just angry when I got the news of our family expecting a baby because it was the first month where I felt we got our grove back and felt more relaxed about it all then was so upset I feel it has Reid it this month and just need someone to blame for that, sounds awful I know 🙈
i hope you get on ok at your appointment and keep me informe. Thinking of you ❤️Xxx
I completely sympathise with you on the family announcement congratulations though gritted teeth is such a bitter sweet thing.
Thank you Babymoon29 I’m counting down the hours until the scans tomorrow. I’ve had them last year but they’re not “in date” so I’m hoping nothings changed as all came back okay - but in some strange way I’m hoping there is maybe something just so I get an answer as to what could be wrong. Have you had the dye test yet? I think that’s possibly the next thing what to expect when we get to see the specialist in June xx