Unexplained infertility

Hello everyone
I have been on here before about 3 years ago actually and we are still trying. A lot has happened in that time. Well not a lot actually I'm still longing for a baby. Right let me tell you about our journey so far.
Feb 2015 I came off the pill, April 2015 we got married and have been TTC ever since.

We let some time past and nothing so I went and seen a doctor who laughed me out the door and told me to lose weight, that made me feel awful and so I ended up putting more weight on.

But a few months later I saw a different doctor and he helped me so much he really got the ball rolling in helping me. He sent me for scans and blood tests, everything come back normal so he referred us to the hospital. My husband had also seen his doctor during this time and had a sperm analysis which also came back normal which were both so relieved about.

So we got an appointment through to go see a fertility specialist at a local hospital and she was brilliant, gave us advice and sent me for a hsg. We waited for another appointment from the hospital and they told me that my hsg had the all clear. Which I was so relieved about. She then dropped the "unexplained infertility" word I didn't have a clue what that meant I sobbed my heart out (this doctor wasn't as nice as the one we had seen before) my husband asked questions but I couldn't speak.

She said she could refer us for IVF but we both need to lose weight. (My attitude at one point about my weight was "well when I get pregnant I will get fat anyway so what is the point in losing weight). This was December last year, so we enjoyed our Christmas and keep our positive thoughts going and in January I was determined to lose weight, to date I've lost 2 and half stone,

I am now in the correct bmi bracket which I can be referred for but my husband has still got abit left to lose but I'm so proud of him too he's done amazing. I still don't understand why a man has to be a certain weight to have ivf when he isn't the one who is going to carry a baby, I also understand that his weight might effect his sperm but according his test he is fine.

I've also been having acupuncture once a week for the past 4 and half months (it’s costly but has been worth it as I’m a lot more relaxed). I wouldn’t say I have conquered my fear of needles but i just don’t look at them ha I just lie back and close my eyes and relax.

Acupuncture has helped my cycles too, my cycles were lasting 25 days which I didn’t think was a problem until I was told that the luteal phase is an important time of the cycle but having acupuncture it has lengthened my cycle to 27 days which is a positive at the end of month I take that as I know I’m not pregnant.

I have a day or two where I feel let down by my own body and feel generally crap but I pick myself up to try again the next month. I would highly recommend acupuncture though I have also tried reflexology and reki they were both relaxing but I feel alot more in tune with my body now.

I’m losing weight and gaining confidence in myself but it doesn’t stop the longing. So many of our friends and families have had babies in this time I’ve been to so many baby showers , 1st birthday parties, I smile but inside I’m crying. A few people have told me they were scared to tell me when they were expecting or their sister etc was.

I read a quote once and it sums me up. “when others get pregnant, I want people to know that every pregnancy announcement is devastating. Not because you’re not happy for them but because you’re sad for you” and this couldn’t be more true. We have given ourselves til Christmas then we will go back to the doctors and get them to refer us for IVF, they can’t argue that haven’t tried as we have given it a year and more.

I turned 30 in May and I had a real hard time about it, the thought I wasn’t going to be a mom or even be pregnant before I was 30, I really struggled with that. But it’s few months on now and I’m over it age is just a number I suppose. But positive thoughts has helped us through alot of this and i hope it will help us more in the future too.

I’m sorry for the very long post I just wanted to share our journey, if anyone Is in a similar situation or has any advice I am always open to anything.
So yeh that’s me, I’d love to hear about you all. (Hopefully someone will reply lol)
Thank you for taking the time to read this.
Sending lots of positive thoughts to you all on your journeys just remember your all amazing and doing the best you can xxxxxxxx