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Back from appt.. Load of rubbish!!!
Hi ladies
Well im back from follow up appt from recurrent mc clinic.
I shouldve know the day was gona be crap. Started off with me sleeping through my alarm & getting up late so a complete rush to make my 9am appt. Finally got on the bus caught my breathe popped a mint in my mouth then started to choke!!! Everyone mustve thought I had the plague as had snot & tears all over my face when in fact was desperatley trying to catch a breathe!!!
Made it to the appt in time, was called in only to see an unfamiliar face & was told that my consultant wasnt in till about 11am as was doing a tutorial at another hospital!!! She then proceded to tell me that my blood tests were normal & that unfortuantly as my case was specialist that was all she could tell me!!!
Obviously not being happy with this I told them whilst trying to hold back the tears that I was disapointed as had lots of questions that I wanted to ask about moving forward as I hadnt seen him since Dec, she then told me what I already knew that in fact my problem wasnt that I couldnt conceive just that I couldnt sustain a pg & that I shouldnt worry to much!!!! WTF!!!
So went off for a coffee whilst waiting for cons to arrive.
Finally saw him just after 11am & he says that I could have the hysteroscopy & lap but he didnt think that there was any probs with my uterus & even with my history of endo it wouldnt cause mc, well I dont beleive that if I have scar tissue then surely that could affect a fetus growing properly & cause mc.
So I've decided that I wont have the lap just the hysteroscopy he will check my uterus & take a sample from the lining if there is anything that needs to be fixed he will do this.
Didnt get to ask him all the questions I wanted to as he didnt seem interested & thinks that we should just keep trying despite me explaining my fears of future pg.
So all in all as the title says today so far has been a load of rubbish!!!!
Sorry for the rant ladies I just expected more but it wasnt to be );
xxx
Well im back from follow up appt from recurrent mc clinic.
I shouldve know the day was gona be crap. Started off with me sleeping through my alarm & getting up late so a complete rush to make my 9am appt. Finally got on the bus caught my breathe popped a mint in my mouth then started to choke!!! Everyone mustve thought I had the plague as had snot & tears all over my face when in fact was desperatley trying to catch a breathe!!!
Made it to the appt in time, was called in only to see an unfamiliar face & was told that my consultant wasnt in till about 11am as was doing a tutorial at another hospital!!! She then proceded to tell me that my blood tests were normal & that unfortuantly as my case was specialist that was all she could tell me!!!
Obviously not being happy with this I told them whilst trying to hold back the tears that I was disapointed as had lots of questions that I wanted to ask about moving forward as I hadnt seen him since Dec, she then told me what I already knew that in fact my problem wasnt that I couldnt conceive just that I couldnt sustain a pg & that I shouldnt worry to much!!!! WTF!!!
So went off for a coffee whilst waiting for cons to arrive.
Finally saw him just after 11am & he says that I could have the hysteroscopy & lap but he didnt think that there was any probs with my uterus & even with my history of endo it wouldnt cause mc, well I dont beleive that if I have scar tissue then surely that could affect a fetus growing properly & cause mc.
So I've decided that I wont have the lap just the hysteroscopy he will check my uterus & take a sample from the lining if there is anything that needs to be fixed he will do this.
Didnt get to ask him all the questions I wanted to as he didnt seem interested & thinks that we should just keep trying despite me explaining my fears of future pg.
So all in all as the title says today so far has been a load of rubbish!!!!
Sorry for the rant ladies I just expected more but it wasnt to be );
xxx
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It frustrates me so much that people probably get more support for going through something like an abortion than miscarriages which aren't their fault. x
I would seriously consider putting a compliant in about it.
Glad you got some tests in and I really hope they come back and help you on your way to your sticky bean.
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xxxx
I have no idea what you could do about complaining etc as I have no experience of this but just wanted to let you know that I think its pants. These appointments mean so much to us all as they are something we work towards and pin our hopes for help on.
Hope you're ok
xxx
I know you must feel totally rubbish, when you build your hopes up for these apps & they dont seem bothered.
Do you remember i had a similar experience back in Dec when i went to see cons only to be told he wasnt there & id have to see a registrar? She was snotty not at all intrested in my case & told me they couldnt treat me!
I was deverstated so i understand where you are comeing from hun.
I hope you do get some awnsers, we are all routeing for you.
XXXX
I am totally gate crashing and am a serious lurker on BE after getting married in September. I've never posted but have enjoyed following peoples journeys so far.
Please don't think I'm prying, but I was watching the news this morning and they were talking about Hughes Syndrome which is also known as sticky blood, It apparently is a common cause of recurrent miscarriage but very rarely tested for and often forgotten by GPs and other health professionals. If your Consultant thinks its a case of not being able to sustain a pregnancy then it might be worth asking for a test, which apparently is quite cheap and straight forward.
Like I said, I am just an avid BE lurker and don't know your full story so please feel free to totally ignore me!
All the very best for your journey.
I just have to wait for my appt to come through for this procedure now, he said that he thinks everything is fine with my uterus due to the number of US I have had but I said to him he cant be sure without having a look as he knows that the US in the past have never shown my endo & when they couldnt see my tubes or ovaries they said that was normal when in fact it wasnt as the left one was stuck to my bowel!!! So he then agreed with me!!
I know there are no guarantees but just to give me some peace of mind that I'll receive some sort of care for the nxt pg wouldve been nice!!
And that stupid cow just had no idea of how you pin all your hopes to your nxt apt only for her to tell me not to worry!!!
Princess I remember your appt hun, what is with these people!
Mazza G/c away hun, thank you, I have had these blood tests done & all seem to be clear, but apparantly there is another one as well that can cause clotting but didnt get the chance to ask!!
xxx
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Just popped in to see how you got on...so sorry to hear that they weren't particularly helpful or understanding.
I know how incredibly difficult and scary it is when they just tell you not to worry and to try again.
I hope the hysteroscopy goes well.
Keeping my fingers crossed for you as always.
Love NN xxx
Would you be able to afford to go privately hon? I think the AGRC in London (as well as other clinics) can do lots of other tests for fertility probs. I wonder if testing for immunity probelsm would be worthwhile as this has turned out to be the problem for a lot of women with unexplained infertility not sustaining pg's with IVF on another thread. NK cells etc...although you may have had this tested already?
I know it m,ust be hard to see the positives right now, but it is a good thing that nothing was identified. I know it doesn't help you relax right now though.
Just praying you will get your break soon honey xxx
Im feeling a little brighter now as had a good chat with my immediate family (mum. dad, bro & sil) & oh of course.
I just felt so upset earlier I came home & cried!!
I think when we get nxt follow up appt oh will be able to come and he will be able to step in & ask questions.
It is deflating but all I can do is pick myself up & get on with it & know that I have support from everyone.
We've decided that were gona wait for 1 month now in the hope that I get the appt through before we go away then well enjoy our holiday & try whilst were away.
Thanks again ladies, I knew I could count on all of you & that was all I wanted to do when I left get back & talk to all of you. xxx