best way to 'keep it' all in??

MrsExx · Jan 27, 2009 3:41PM

hi laides
hubby and i are wondering what is the best way to keep his sperm inside me after BDing, as there arent many of his swimmers we want to give them the best chance, we have been trying for 3 yrs but still dont quite know best way lol, sorry tmi, even if i lay down with my bum up on our very big cushions for an hour, as soon as i get up within 2 minutes it all comeso ut again, well it feels like loads anyway.

has anyone tried anytihng that seems to work? or any suggestions?

goodl uck to everyone else
love MRS E xx

ps PMA is sky high today so roll on roll on ovulation

gypsy-57559 · Jan 20, 2009 1:41PM

Get a cork

I don't know cw - sorry. All I can say is the ones that are clever enouh to swim up will be long gone by the time you get up. The ones that escape weren't good enough for your egg!

purple_mummy · Jan 20, 2009 1:55PM

Brilliant answer Gypsy, made me LOL

I just try to lie down and and then go to sleep and hope that some of them find their way but still falls out in the morning $:\$ ?

DaisyGirlx · Jan 20, 2009 1:59PM

Best way I've found is to BD last thing at night and then sleep and much less seems to be lost in the morning! Lots of luck - PMA is definitely a great start!

Lucky, Star & Clover! · Jan 20, 2009 3:38PM

Gypsy... ha!!

I also try to do it last thing at night, then fall sleep.... at lot less 'spillage' in the morning!!

hannie · Jan 20, 2009 3:51PM

Hey,
what about using a tampon for a few hours? Good Luck hun xx

MrsExx · Jan 20, 2009 4:09PM

lol you ladies make me smile
i did tihnk about the tampon thing but i wondered if it would absorb it all?

hannie · Jan 20, 2009 4:14PM

Yep good point but maybe it would be more effective than it escaping. Its nice to know we all think about these kinda things!

MrsExx · Jan 20, 2009 4:59PM

lol, yes i guess it would be more effective in one way lol, wolud definatly plug it, but would also absorb the spermies and semen. but if i dont use one then it still escapes. so lose- lose situation.

maybe ..... BDing in doggy position as that allows the gentleman's bits to be as close othe cervix as possible xx
what do you lovely ladies think? will it work or is it not worth trying?

cant wait to hear from you all xx
love MRS E xx

gypsy-57559 · Jan 20, 2009 5:09PM

Different positions are always worth trying

BubbaM · Jan 20, 2009 5:30PM

My cousin got pregnant hun after 15months of trying and she swears it was by bedding with her on top and then straight after lying on her tummy for as long as possible. Good luck. x

hjanea · Jan 21, 2009 8:07AM

OK tampon with a bag, cling film-something not anti sperm over it?
Think I might try this tonight now I've thought of it as my new donor is coming for the third night running and -TMI-produces more semen than my old one so theres lots of spillage and its not like it's your oh's!!!YUK!!!
Anyone think it may be worth a try?
Helen.xx

-moonbean- · Jan 21, 2009 1:18PM

I read some where (I seem to right this a lot on these forums!!!) that sperm only survive for around half an hour in your vagina they only live on if they get into the cervix so if you are lying down for a good half hour (hour to be safe) then the spillage that comes out is of no loss as it just contains wee dead ones??? I would look it up but I have read it a few times. Curious re stomach idea as I always lie on back. My mum took 4 years to get BFP with me and she swore it was cycling on her back after!!!!!! Oh the visions!!!

MrsS3 · Jan 22, 2009 5:08PM

maybe really stupid question after reading people's responses but I'm gonna ask anyway! Don't you wipe or dry off (TMI) after BD? May be that's part of our problem! Apart from my lack of OV of course!:\?

littlem · Jan 23, 2009 9:32AM

I tried for 3 years and 8 months before I got my bfp and my hubbys mobility was low - the month we conceived I didn't think that it was possible as had a smear test however I thought best to give it a go... normally I had a custion under my bum but this month I did a head stand for about 5 minutes to make sure that they found the right way - and it bloody worked.... got my bfp that month... so maybe you need to help gravity for a few short minutes, not go to the toilet for about an hour and don't wipe or dry off just put your knickers back on quick... ahve a shower in the morning!! good luck girls xx

mrssmith69 · Jan 23, 2009 11:23AM

We have tried the donor approach this month and used a syring instead and nothing came out and i have loads of pma fingers crossed

MrsExx · Jan 26, 2009 5:15AM

i think we may have ot try that, lol. think ill get hubby to 'come' into a pot then syringe it into me xxx
im currently on CD15 soooo BDing everyday xx

hjanea · Jan 26, 2009 5:00PM

Well it still comes out for me as thats my only method. My previous donor only gave me 1ml of semen and I didn't lose any, but the new one was 3-4mls and I lost loads which was very unpleasant. Seriously thinking of using a tampon which cling film or something similar over it and leaving it in for a couple of hours whilst the best sperms get there and then I can remove the tampon and let the excess semen out into the loo which to me and my circumstances does seem pleasanter than lying in leakage. Sorry if this has been tmi!!xxx

Little_Miss_Bump · Jan 26, 2009 5:12PM

Sorry but can i be bold here??? I once read in an article that if you had a big O (orgasm, yuck i hate that word) after your partner then it conracts the cervix into drawing sperm into the uterus, missionary position prefered xx

MrsExx · Jan 26, 2009 6:17PM

hi my lovlies,
thank you for all your funny but helpful messages.

i think the tampon idea works in theory but i definatly do not think you should use cling film as it contains lots of unpleasant chemicals. maybe using a condom or something twisted at the bottom? or a rubber finger thingy (looks like a tiny condom)

and regarding the unpleasant donor semen leakage, that must be very hard for you, yes i think that seems like the best idea though (leaking into the toilet) xx
keep me updated hunnies
Mrs E xx

hjanea · Jan 27, 2009 4:28AM

I have nitrile gloves for work-allergic to latex.- and had wondered about the finger from one of these over the tampon-but don't know what chemicals are in that either.xxx

best way to 'keep it' all in??

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