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Too personal question?!
Hello ladies
hope it's not too personal to ask everyone, (i figured we share CM details and all sorts on these boards, so hopefully ok to ask...) How often in an average month would you say you BD? Do those of you who have been trying quite a long time (in my case over 2 years..) find BDing has changed? I must confess, sometimes I feel so annoyed at myself if we 'miss' a fertile opportunity if you know what i mean and then, equally some months, although I do enjoy BD, I feel a bit like there's less 'point' to it all if I think I have already OV'd and not really much chance of getting pg....(I know that must sound dreadful)
Would love to hear from you all...
xx
[Modified by: MrsBambino on 29 November 2008 19:48:20 ]
hope it's not too personal to ask everyone, (i figured we share CM details and all sorts on these boards, so hopefully ok to ask...) How often in an average month would you say you BD? Do those of you who have been trying quite a long time (in my case over 2 years..) find BDing has changed? I must confess, sometimes I feel so annoyed at myself if we 'miss' a fertile opportunity if you know what i mean and then, equally some months, although I do enjoy BD, I feel a bit like there's less 'point' to it all if I think I have already OV'd and not really much chance of getting pg....(I know that must sound dreadful)
Would love to hear from you all...
xx
[Modified by: MrsBambino on 29 November 2008 19:48:20 ]
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I feel like that too sometimes. It's all so hard sometimes. At the moment I'd say we try to bd about every 3 days, i know they say you should do it more than that but I find if i am tired it is hard to stay, well, er 'motivated'! And, as you say, hard to feel romantic when you feel you have to do it to a schedule...Some months it has only been a couple of times - mainly my fault as I know i dwell too much on the actual thoughts of ttc...
I'm conscious we need to make a decision re the whole IVF process soon - if we do decide to go private - cos I am really at the point of feeling utterly consumed with tears etc every month when AF arrives on cue.
Thanks for replying. xx
Looking back, I think our first year of TTC I found it easier to 'want' to do it more often, prob every other night, but I'm afraid to say now that we're over the 2 year mark, i do get a bit fixated with the whole process...
Thanks for replying and wishing you lots of luck. xx
[Modified by: MrsBambino on November 29, 2008 08:10 PM]
I'm so sorry to hear about your mc - I can't even begin to imagine.
You're right though - it is so encouraging and exciting to read about BFPs which have been waited on for a while, or after mc (although I'm saying that conscious that ANY amount of time can feel like a long time when you want soemthing so much...even after 6 months I was pulling my hair out with symptom spotting lol).
I totally agree, any wanted BFP is woderful news, but it makes me smile even more when it happens to a lady who has had a lot to overcome, if you know what I mean. I hope we all get our bambinos soon. One thing is for sure, they'll be so wanted and loved - even if they keep us awake all night!! tee hee. xx
[Modified by: MrsBambino on November 29, 2008 08:34 PM]
I have found that my oh seems to have 'gone off' bd'g at the moment. When we are 'trying', he is up for it all the time, and we just generally bd every other day, but since I said we should wait after my abnormal smears, he seems a bit reluctant. I dont know if he just hates using condoms (which he does!) or if its because he is worried incase we accidentaly got caught, and is worried about my health or something. he doesnt talk about his feelings much, and I dont know how to ask without it sounding like criticism!! MEN!
xx