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Anyone not returning to work??
Hi ladies
So I am due to return to work on 4 January...still quite a way off but its at the forefront of my mind most of the time. I work in London but live outside (30 mins train journey away) and was considering going back part-time but now I'm not so sure. We can't really afford for me to stay at home but I am really torn. In my job, I used to work long hours (certainly outside the usual nursery hours of 8am-6pm) and I feel that if I go back part-time I won't be able to give it my all. But i worry about what I'd do at home all day and that I won't have any mental stimulation. I have quite a few baby friends now but they are all returning to work next year and fear I'd be lonely at home all the time. However my ds is now 7 months old and I can't believe how quick its gone and I think if I was at work during these young years, I would be missing out. Surely he'll soon be school age and then I can go back to work?
Has anyone else decided to become a SAHM and how are you feeling about it??
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So I am due to return to work on 4 January...still quite a way off but its at the forefront of my mind most of the time. I work in London but live outside (30 mins train journey away) and was considering going back part-time but now I'm not so sure. We can't really afford for me to stay at home but I am really torn. In my job, I used to work long hours (certainly outside the usual nursery hours of 8am-6pm) and I feel that if I go back part-time I won't be able to give it my all. But i worry about what I'd do at home all day and that I won't have any mental stimulation. I have quite a few baby friends now but they are all returning to work next year and fear I'd be lonely at home all the time. However my ds is now 7 months old and I can't believe how quick its gone and I think if I was at work during these young years, I would be missing out. Surely he'll soon be school age and then I can go back to work?
Has anyone else decided to become a SAHM and how are you feeling about it??
xx
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By the time I knew I was getting the package I knew I was pg with Harry so timing was great and I was 17 weeks pg when I left.
Realistically I wont get as well a paid job again, partly because I don't want as much travelling etc, so I dont want what little I will be earning to go on child care so I have decided to stay at home probably until Harry is in p1.
It can be tough keeping them both entertained sometimes, but I def wouldnt have it any other way now. I'm very lucky in that I did get a pay off, but trying not to use it as much as poss to make it last longer!
I have a good mixture of friends, and my best friend is also a sahm, so again i'm lucky, but I know that it could be tough if you don't have adult company as well.
Sorry if I've waffled on, thats my story anyway!
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the plan is for me to become a sahm and I'm really looking forward to it. However in some ways like you I don't know any other sahm around me and all my mummy friends work and so when they're off they want to spend it with their family and I really can't blame them for that!
About a month ago I grew a pair of balls (so to speak) and went to a local baby group and it was the best thing I'd done!!! I met a lovely lady there with a girl 2 months older than rebecca and were becoming good friends. It's made a real difference to me and I now look forward to going to the baby group every Monday!
I've waffled on and I'm not sure if that helps at all!!
Jem
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Find a local toddlers group, walk in with a happy face, walk up to someone and say hi and start chatting. Another good tip is go to the same place every week at the same time. I go to a local soft play and started going for lunch the same day every week and you get chatting to the same people.
Gemm x
Thanks for your replies girls xx