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TTC Number 2 and Finances ...
Hello everyone!
Well ... after a drunken conversation with my husband at the weekend we have basically decided to try for baby number 2. We are basically just going to not not try and see what happens but are in agreement we would love a second baby close in age with Conallso its all very exciting!!!
I know it would be very hard work but I think it will be worth it in the long run becsuase hopefully they would be really close and I always wanted that (being an only child myself).
Anyway the one thing thats stressing me a bit about the whole thing is whether we can afford it. We seem to be doing ok with Conall money wise. Obviously lots of people have been very generous and helped us out so we havent had to buy too many expensive things but I just wonder if we would be that much worse of financially with 2.
My thoughts are this:
1. We are already have 1 of everything and so my thinking is that will save us some money straight off. Obviously we would need a double buggy, another cot etc but lots of things we can just keep for number 2.
2. The job I am in at the moment I dont see as "my career". I know this will sound terrible as though I am just trying to squeeze money out of them but I think I might be best to have another bubba in my current job where I get my leave etc and then try to get a job in what I am trained in and want to do (trained as a teacher but no jobs in my subject at the moment).
I'm not sure why I am writing this but it helps just to write it down if that makes sense! I'm not looking to justify having another because I think we have pretty much decided that we are going to TTC. I'm so so so excited!!! I would just like to know your thoughts as there may be things I've not considered which would be good to think about.
I know we already have one 2nd time mummy to be in the forum and wonder if anyone else is TTC yet?
Thanks again girls I think I would go mad without being able to ramble on BE!
Joanna and Conall (5 months) xxx
Well ... after a drunken conversation with my husband at the weekend we have basically decided to try for baby number 2. We are basically just going to not not try and see what happens but are in agreement we would love a second baby close in age with Conallso its all very exciting!!!
I know it would be very hard work but I think it will be worth it in the long run becsuase hopefully they would be really close and I always wanted that (being an only child myself).
Anyway the one thing thats stressing me a bit about the whole thing is whether we can afford it. We seem to be doing ok with Conall money wise. Obviously lots of people have been very generous and helped us out so we havent had to buy too many expensive things but I just wonder if we would be that much worse of financially with 2.
My thoughts are this:
1. We are already have 1 of everything and so my thinking is that will save us some money straight off. Obviously we would need a double buggy, another cot etc but lots of things we can just keep for number 2.
2. The job I am in at the moment I dont see as "my career". I know this will sound terrible as though I am just trying to squeeze money out of them but I think I might be best to have another bubba in my current job where I get my leave etc and then try to get a job in what I am trained in and want to do (trained as a teacher but no jobs in my subject at the moment).
I'm not sure why I am writing this but it helps just to write it down if that makes sense! I'm not looking to justify having another because I think we have pretty much decided that we are going to TTC. I'm so so so excited!!! I would just like to know your thoughts as there may be things I've not considered which would be good to think about.
I know we already have one 2nd time mummy to be in the forum and wonder if anyone else is TTC yet?
Thanks again girls I think I would go mad without being able to ramble on BE!
Joanna and Conall (5 months) xxx
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i have small age gap between my first 2 its fab ds1 was 15mths when ds2 was born i didnt need a new cot as he went into a bed with a bed guard as he was waking himself up n night rlling into the sides of the cot.like you say you already have everything so only big expense is buggy and all the other things like bed for conall bigger car seat etc you would have had to get anyway if you know what i mean?
i really dont think its that more expensive having 2 i certainly wouldnt have gone for 4 if i did lol
anyway good luck TTC x x x
amanda x
I love hearing from mums with a close age gap i think its so lovely.
Can't wait for another BFP!!!! woohoo!
Now ... who else is going to join me? ha ha! xxx
Good luck and here's hoping we can get a bfp together!
xx
Im glad to hear you are all settled in Oz now!
I agree about the money aspect u just seem to live with what u have is soooo true. I can remember when I was pregnant thinking theres no way we will survive on SMP but we have and we will again!
I'm going back to work PT hopefully in August and Im hoping I'll be 3 days a week. I'm going to speak to them about it mid May as I need to give 8 weeks notice before going back and will need to request PT hours which should be ok.
I really hate my job so I'm dreading it but needs must! I'm planning to go back into teaching eventually which is my passion so might as well do it after number 2 as the job situation at the moment is dire!
Sending loads of babydust your way and hope we both get a BFP very soon!
All I need to worry about now is what people would say when I told them., I told MIL on Sunday that a family friend is expecting again and there will be 16 months between her two when she gives birth. You should have seen the look on her face it was a cross between disgust and sheer disbelief lol! I think she might actually fall of her seat if we make a similar announcement! Ha ha! Would be great just to see her face!
Keep us all updated honey xxx