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OH doesn't approve of bf
I had this problem last time but getting into same arguments again. Hubby can't understand why I want to bf full time and on demand. He hates that it isn't totally conducive to a routine and therefore less likely to make baby sleep all night from this early stage. Also thinks I overfeed him! :x And then says its my fault if baby is sick which has only been twice in four weeks ( proper sick that is). So much like last time and made me upset. I'd forgotten this recurring argument but it has popped up again and I can't cope with ten months of torture and being told of for doing something good for my baby. Is it a man thing?!? Sorry just wanted to see what everyone else was experiencing re bf ? x
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I'd love a routine but accept we won't be having much of one if I continue to BF. On a good day I aim to BF for 6 months - other days I say I'll give it one more day. OH also isn't too bothered about routine ... where I'd like to start a bedtime routine - he works shifts so I'm home alone a lot, and I guess selfishly it would be easier for me if Freddie had a routine that we could stick to.
We've talked about me expressing so he can give Freddie a night time feed (when he's not at work) to give me a break and to feel more involved but as yet we haven't tried it. Could you express so he could do a feed before bed then you know how much Zach is having and whether it affects the length of time he sleeps for?
Sorry - that's not a lot of help really ...
Welsh x
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Hope that it settles down soon - but you are def doing what is best - i would love to bf but milk never came in x
I'm sure part of it is boob envy x
I have decided today, and started tonight, to top up with ff as a temporary measure. Only because I realise that my milk supply is too low and Brody is not getting enough so I need to do this until I get my milk supply to increase over the next few days. Also I wanted to introduce a bottle this week to make sure he won't reject it down the line for the times I do need to express and leave the feed for him. So I expressed tonight (to see how much I actually have) and hubby gave this to him in a bottle, then he fed him ff to make up the rest. I can tell hubby was really happy about it... but he needn't get used to it!! He better not use this to get on my case more or I will clobber him. My hormones never raged during pregnancy but right now they are so he really shouldnt dare cross me!!
Summer .. love it. Yeah, get your hubby to call!!
And yes, I too think it's partly boob envy!!
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Every time I get the pump out (have been at night to use colief) hubby starts mooing. I just want to slap him. Last night I was thinking how to pump both at once (I have a twin pump)as I have to lean forward with them so he told me to put both on, get on all fours and he would hold them like he was milking a cow. Does he really think that's funny?? I told him I would stick them on his nipples and pump away and see how he feels before he laughs :evil:
And yes.. it's not about having a break!! I don't want to be away from my baby at the moment. By me expressing, Im still here, and would rather be bf!! He doesnt get it.. if I want a break then I will say so. I don't need anyone else telling me that I need one!
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In my small experience, both the times I've expressed and had a 'break' it's left me really really sore by the morning when I'm full to bursting with milk. Takes a couple of days for the tenderness to go, so before husbands start thinking it's a break, they can sod off!
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