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So how are we all doing?
Hi girls just thought I would check in adn see how we are all coping?
Logan is now 23 days old and actually we seem to be coping great! We are really getting to know each other and he is beginning to be much more alert and making loads of sounds now! It's really exciting to hear him in the morning!! He is putting on a realyl healthy amount of weight and sleeps reasonably well. We had some problems with wind a week ago but we started using Infacol and it seems much better now. Although, he pretty much refuses to sleep on his back so against medical advice we sleep him on his side.
To be honest, the hardest bit of it all is how guilty I feel all the time lol!! We are mix feeding - he gets some formula, breast and EBM. Even though the MW and HV have been supportive I can't help but feel really guilty that I am not exclusively BFing him but everytime I start increasing the amount of breastfeeding I do I really realyl struggle. From a bottle he will take 4oz and then be v happy and satisfied but from my breast he latches on perfectly but will cluster feed for hours at at time! My recovery from the csection has been slow - am still really sore (HV thinks I have been overdoing it) and this just adds to make the bfing even more difficult. Loads of times I have considered jsut switching to full formula but my guilt stops me lol!! However, I don't about everyone else but I am actually fed up of my boobs leaking everywehre haha!! I hate wearing a brain bed so have been wearing tight vests but if I have a restless night I wake up soaking wet lol. I'm kinda looking forward to getting my boobs back to be honest!!
My OH has been amazing - still really looking after me and he is jsut besotted with our little boy. He really has just fitted in to being a father realyl easily. Our relationship has also got even stronger which I never imagined was actually possible!
Anyway sorry for the long post. How are you all doing? How are your LO's? What about your OH's - how are they coping?
Heidi and Logan
xxx
Logan is now 23 days old and actually we seem to be coping great! We are really getting to know each other and he is beginning to be much more alert and making loads of sounds now! It's really exciting to hear him in the morning!! He is putting on a realyl healthy amount of weight and sleeps reasonably well. We had some problems with wind a week ago but we started using Infacol and it seems much better now. Although, he pretty much refuses to sleep on his back so against medical advice we sleep him on his side.
To be honest, the hardest bit of it all is how guilty I feel all the time lol!! We are mix feeding - he gets some formula, breast and EBM. Even though the MW and HV have been supportive I can't help but feel really guilty that I am not exclusively BFing him but everytime I start increasing the amount of breastfeeding I do I really realyl struggle. From a bottle he will take 4oz and then be v happy and satisfied but from my breast he latches on perfectly but will cluster feed for hours at at time! My recovery from the csection has been slow - am still really sore (HV thinks I have been overdoing it) and this just adds to make the bfing even more difficult. Loads of times I have considered jsut switching to full formula but my guilt stops me lol!! However, I don't about everyone else but I am actually fed up of my boobs leaking everywehre haha!! I hate wearing a brain bed so have been wearing tight vests but if I have a restless night I wake up soaking wet lol. I'm kinda looking forward to getting my boobs back to be honest!!
My OH has been amazing - still really looking after me and he is jsut besotted with our little boy. He really has just fitted in to being a father realyl easily. Our relationship has also got even stronger which I never imagined was actually possible!
Anyway sorry for the long post. How are you all doing? How are your LO's? What about your OH's - how are they coping?
Heidi and Logan
xxx
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But MrsBinks - you have to do what is right for you! Although, it has taken me a long time to work out what is right for me!! Still feel guilty for not exclusively BFing.
Good luck in your decision!
Day 2 for us and my milk has come in already! My boobs are about 4 time the size of her head, it looks so bizarre as she feeds! Cluster feeds are going to take a bit of getting used to but hopefully now she's getting proper milk it might help.
Like colligreen says, your not a failure. I used to find that after a hot shower was good for expressing. Also please don;t stress over it as I ahve been told this might affect your milk supply - although not sure how true. Keep going at it, some babies will feed more often than others.
As the others have said you have got to do what is right for YOU! A happy mum = a happy baby xxx
Hope you're all fab and enjoying your new bundles? I am really enjoying being a mum - everyday i look at Isabella and think 'my god, you're MINE!' and just feel so blessed she's here!!
I've had a nightmare with my episiotomy...the wound completely broke down so i'm now receiving laser treatment to heal it - so far, so good!
This all happened around day 3 and it severely delayed my milk coming in...poor baby girl was feeding all the time but obviously not getting enough so just wouldn't settle...felt such a rubbish mum til i got expressing (with help from my mum) and cup fed her until we turned a corner...which we have cuz today the HV weighed her and she's now 9lb 5oz...6oz heavier than her birth weight (she'd lost an ounce by day 10)...little chubchub!!
My mum's been staying with us on and off so we can get sleep some nights but to be honest, she's starting to readjust her day/nights to match us and will sleep from 1am - 6.30 with one or two feeds inbetween. Since we put her in her sleeping/grobag at night, instead of sheets and blankets, she's really content
Ahhh, we're mummies at last
Girls - don't feel guilty about the feeding - you do what's right for you and your little ones, noone knows our babies needs like their mummies xxx
We tried Logan in a sleeping bag but I think he was still too small really - it just looked so big and uncomfortable on him. Going to try it again when he a bit bigger. Midwife coming tomorrow for the last time as Logan is 1 month old tomorrow!!!! Looking forward to seeing how much he weighs now.
I came home from the hospital with 1 baby being combined fed & the other formula fed & now am combined feeding them both. Please don't feel guilt about how you feed your lo. My dd was exclusively bresatfed & I'm certainly seeing the benifits of formula this time round! We are getting far more sleep now than when dd was 2 weeks old as the formula really fills them - both twins get a really bloated look on thier faces from a bottle! I am though trying to up the breastfeeds over formula during theday as I find it easier & less time consuming to breastfeed 2 at the same time than bottle feed them individually.
With expressing - your lo is much better at getting milk out than a pump so how much you get from expressing may not indicate how much your lo is getting at a feed. Also, you cant see how 'fatty; or 'filling' the milk is.
How are you feeling now about your recovery from the c-section since you started this thread? I find I'm not in constant pain but do get a pain on the right side of the scar sometimes and find it difficult to find things to wear that don't put pressure on the scar. Hope all went well with the midwife, I was discharged to the health visitor after 12 days. Someone is coming to weigh the babies late next week or at the start of the following week but only because I requested it as am concerned about the weight of the pushchair when I venture out in the car again . . .
Logan got weighed today, he is 1month old today and weighs 9lb2 from a 7lb4 birth weight! Very pleasd.
Glad to see this forum slowly filling up now and so pleased tht we all made it no matter how traumatic it may have been for some of us!
Heidi and Logan
xxx
How are you my lovely? I'm back online after a 6 week wait for SKY to sort my internet at the new house!! (There's a few names I'd like to call them!)
Anyhoo, I think you and I are living parallel lives at the moment! After having Teddy on 5th Oct, I've been at home recovering from the C section, and did exactly the same as you last week - thought I was recovering nicely, pushed myself a bit too hard and ended up in bed last Sunday afternoon with painkillers!
Called HV Monday am and was told off for pushing myself too hard and ordered to rest up.
One thing that made me realise I had pushed too hard was when the HV reminded me that there are an awful lot of layers to heal underneath the skin after a C section and just because the top layer is looking like it's healing nicely, it doesn't mean the other layers are better too.
MrsBinks, I started BF at the hospital, came home on the Thurs and by the Sat Teddy had made both my nipples bleed where he was obviously not latched on properly! I rang the helpline and a BF specialist came round on the Tues and showed me what I was doing wrong. (Sounds silly but Teddy's bottom lip wasn't curled out when he was sucking, it might help someone else out there)
Luckily, since then I've managed to keep the BFing going, altho it bloody well kills me sometimes, it's toe-curling!!
Also, to make you all aware Mothercare are selling the Tomme Tippee electric breast pump for half price at the mo - ??????42.50!
I bought one and LOVE it.
Karen and Teddy (26 days old) xxx
It was also my HV that scared teh s*** out of me when she went on about how if you push yourself too much after a csec you can end up with hernias and could tear y our bowels!!!!!!! I haven't moved much since lol. Although, I am feeling surprisingly well today. My tummy isn't hurting half as much as it has been doing and I don't seem quite as tired out. Still taking it easy though - hoping to try a short drive round the block on my own next week. Have you stuck to the no driving Koukla? I tell you what though, anyone who says having a csec is the easy way out certainly doesn't know what they are talking about!!! I don't mind though - it is all worth it!!!
x
Heidi and logan
I've not really been tempted to drive to be honest, altho I am looking foward to it but will wait the other 2 weeks. Hubby was driving up to a set of traffic lights on Sunday and the lights went amber just as we were passing thru them, he went to stop and then changed his mind, nothing dangerous, but my reaction was to tense my stomach and it definitely made me think twice about driving before the suggested 6 weeks.
OMG, I must just share this with you......I took Ted to the baby clinic today, by myself, which I was quite proud of!! Anyhoo, we had him weighed and he's gone from birth weight - 7lb 4.5oz to a whopping 9lb 11.5oz......the little chubba!!! I was congratulated on his weight gain which I'm pleased about as I'm breastfeeding but I'm gutted that he's already growing so fast!!
KM xx