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Has anyone managed to go to any groups yet?
My husband and I got out and about a lot during his paternity leave but now its just me I'm taking it easy - going to appointments when I have to and having friends over for coffee but nothing too ambitious.
Everyone keeps telling me to get out and meet other moms and join baby groups but I want to wait a while and feel more confident first. I guess I just feel a bit bad as today I had tracksuit bottoms on all day and apart from tidy the house a bit and me and baby spend time together we haven't actually done anything. Should I feel bad?
My husband and I got out and about a lot during his paternity leave but now its just me I'm taking it easy - going to appointments when I have to and having friends over for coffee but nothing too ambitious.
Everyone keeps telling me to get out and meet other moms and join baby groups but I want to wait a while and feel more confident first. I guess I just feel a bit bad as today I had tracksuit bottoms on all day and apart from tidy the house a bit and me and baby spend time together we haven't actually done anything. Should I feel bad?
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We've not been to any groups yet, but i might try and get to the children's centre this week to the breastfeeding cafe. Not fed in public yet so hoping this group will give me some confidence. They also do an under ones group which i might start going to.
I feel really nervous when i'm out alone though. I can't drive yet but have been for a couple of walks alone. I walked into town to meet hubby after work but Ryan started screaming and had to keep getting him out the pram to comfort him coz i didn't know what else to do!
Don't feel bad about not doing anything, at the end of the day you've just had a baby!
xxx
They do an under ones group at the childrens centre and I will go when Oliver is a bit older and I feel more comfortable.
You shouldn't say that you are not doing anything as you are doing the best job in the world and that is being a mummy.
SB x
All we have done is go into town or for a walk while ds is at school and dd1 is a playschool (3morns a week 10-12) last week we went to see my granny and today we called to see my friend and her 17wk old. I have a light twin buggy my mum got us and I've walked both girls down to the park in the village.
I haven't fed in public as such either, just in the mothercare room, and in the car
I live in my jimjams and no bra lol, it took me 3 hours to get ready to go out the other day, planned to get the bus to clinic as still not driving as i was leaving, hubby come home early to take us. I was happy about the fact i didnt have to get the bus but was naffed off as well due to all my hard work.
when you do feel ready for public feeding - pick your places to start with and go with someone who gives you confidence (best mate, mum, OH) John lewis have an infant feeding room with comfy sofas etc which, some way down the line, might make you feel you could go shopping again! Im braving it this friday with my mum as desperately need some winter shoes (am wearing flip flops in the rain!) my baby's 7 weeks though and feel much more confident about it all. I can accept we may only get a couple of hours and if he screams the place down we can always just admit defeat and come home. Would not have dreamt of doing this in the beginning though - you need to be getting a few hours sleep first.
xxx